Does anyone else overthink social interactions this much?

[Lindor2828]

It seems to be getting worse the older I get (early 30s) but I've got to the point where it's becoming debilitating and lm starting to think there's something seriously wrong with me...

Whether I'm on the phone at work, talking to friends, if I'm at parents evening or doing the nursery run, I overthink every conversation and ask myself "why did you say that" or "it was all going well until you said X". Even sending an email at work I must re-read it multiple times before I hit send incase I've said something wrong or come across as arsey. I wonder what people must think of me, whether that be that I'm weird or inappropriate or too friendly?!

I feel like my judgement is impaired by this constant state I'm in I really want to be confident and comfortable as who I am but I'm not sure where to start? Job interviews are the worst because I tend to talk nonsense and jibberish - I've no idea how I managed to get the job I am in now. I feel like my self esteem is rock bottom.

Thanks for all the replies. I can relate to the arranging play dates and also planning parties or any sort of social event because I manage to convince myself that I am boring or weird and there's absolutely no way people are going to have fun in my company! I hated planning my wedding and went really low key as a result but I still over analyse aspects of the day a few years later...

To the poster who mentioned that a counsellor asked them if they can remember a time where anyone else said something stupid, this has been really helpful, because I genuinely cannot recall a time I have ever thought this about anyone...even if someone has said something slightly odd imo, it's a passing thought for me and then its gone - and it doesn't change my opinion of them!

I just feel like I'm a grown woman now and I want to come across as confident and comfortable in who I am!