Curly Hair

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Am I being Unreasonable to think that I would have noticed if my 13 year old daughter has curly hair?

Frankly it's straight! Very very long but definitely straight.

She has been told by a friend and the latest SM that yes its probably curly!! It's NOT!!!
However she is trying to convince me to purchase expensive curl revivor products!!

Kids I ask ya!!!!

Depends. I thought mine was just straight and frizzy.
Nope. It’s wavy and some places ringlets. Didn’t know until I tried the curly girl method. It needn’t be expensive. Silicone free shampoo and conditioner ( I use 90p Alberto balsam) and some gel is all she needs to try it.

Some of us do find that we have natural waves if we cut our hair. What's the texture like? That's usually a big clue. I have naturally kinky hair and it's rough, which generally curls and waves is.
If it's that slippy slidy beautiful soft straight hair there's no chance it's curly.
If it's got a bit of texture she might be onto something.
However, the good news is curly hair works best with minimal/natural products. No expensive products just co washing with a non silicone/alcohol conditioner and squish to condish.
Anything else is just marketing.

I always had long straight hair, cut my hair a lot shorter and it went wavy for the first time. I then tried the curly girl method and now I have really curly hair!

I agree with the PP above - she doesn't need expensive products!

Oh my god I have an ex friend with poker straight hair but insisted to everyone she has mega curly hair. She didn't have a single wave, frizz or curl but was adamant her hair was curly. Me on the other hand have extremely long very curly ringlets. Curl creams can be as cheap as £1.

I didn't realise my hair was curly until my mid twenties, it was poker straight until I turned about 13 after then I just thought it was frizzy and unruly.
My parents definitely didn't despite my Dad and his siblings all having curly hair and encouraged me to brush it and embrace the 'natural bounce' aka the hideous frizz.

@mafted that's brought back so many memories of frizzy hair and my parents telling me I need to brush it! I hated my hair so much

[quote WhenISnappedAndFarted]@mafted that's brought back so many memories of frizzy hair and my parents telling me I need to brush it! I hated my hair so much[/quote]
Same here! I used to iron my hair to smooth it. My parents were former hippies and would be telling me to 'stay natural maaan' it didn't help that every hairdresser I visited used thinning scissors with gusto which only made matters worse!

Mine has always been ‘straight’ but it’s actually always gone quite frizzy when damp etc, I was looking at curly girl method for my daughter and tried it myself. I’ve got naturally curl and actual ringlets in my hair now I don’t shampoo the oils out of it. Yabu, there are loads of cheap options - just give her the info to read and ask her to source cheap options on Google, loads of blogs etc about it.

Is it naturally poker straight and would never stay wavy even after sleeping in plaits, or is it more on the frizzy end of 'straight' in which case it could be wavy if not curly? A right faff though the whole process, especially CGM. But if she's 13 and keen to try - start with something relatively inexpensive like eco gel - don't feel like you have to get swept along with the whole CGM religion.

If it's frizzy, it's not straight. So it depends.

Oh god my teenage daughter spent a year or so insisting her hair had a natural curl. It didn't. I just smiled and said oh yes and let her waste her own money on products for curly hair.

It's a TikTok trend that's probably why

A lot of people's hair is wavy or curly and they don't know
Pic 1 is my hair that looks "difficult" or frizzy or like it needs straightening maybe
Pic 2 is also my hair because it's actually wavy

Just let her crack on, but she doesn't need to spend a fortune on it. Look at cheaper products. She'll give up if it doesn't work. Lots of people have success with the curly girl method, thinking they just had straight hair before but turns out they were looking after their hair the wrong way

@MaybeHeIsMyCat

A lot of people's hair is wavy or curly and they don't know Pic 1 is my hair that looks "difficult" or frizzy or like it needs straightening maybe Pic 2 is also my hair because it's actually wavy

What do you use on your hair? It looks amazing.

@TotoAnnihiliation I vary it but usually
Bounce curl shampoo
Innersense conditioner
Innersense I create volume and I create lift
Treluxe gel

Her hair may well be curly.

I think people have this misunderstanding that curly hair naturally and magically falls into immaculate ringlets like you see on Instagram. The reality for most curly hair is that it needs work to look decentfull stop curly.

If I left my hair to dry naturally without any products etc, it would be straight in sections, wavy in the odd bit and a few curls at the front. I can straighten it and yoi wouldn't know its curly. But if I wet it, slather it in gel, scrunch it and diffuse it, it goes to ringlets.

If you're not going to let her buy some products for her curly hair, at least have the decency to buy her some decent straighteners to save her from years of teenage hair from hell.

[quote MaybeHeIsMyCat]@TotoAnnihiliation I vary it but usually
Bounce curl shampoo
Innersense conditioner
Innersense I create volume and I create lift
Treluxe gel [/quote]
Thank you. I'll look at these.

Mine has turned curly in my 40s!

Mine has never dried the same way twice

@DrManhattan

Mine has never dried the same way twice

It's like cross your fingers and pray sometimes