Migraine Twitter & Only Fans

[NormalBloke]

Please help. Im in a long distance relationship. Weve been together 1 month in the UK but then she has returned home abroad over the last 2 weeks. We are making plans for me to visit soon and she is coming back in April.....Anway we have got into a routine of messaging in the morning and having a video call in the evening.

Yesterday evening she had to visit a doctor for some medication as she was having a sudden bad migraine. We exchanged nice messages but she said it would be better if we didnt speak tonight as shes wasnt feeling up for it as struggling to concentrate and couldnt see properly out of one eye. I was of course very worried and felt a bit uselsss as not been there for her. However i respected her wish. i do 110% believe that she was suffering a migraine.

Immediately after this i looked at her twitter feed and it showed she was active just before we messaged and again for the next couple of hours .

She also has a tasteful modelling Only Fans account and i could see that she was occasionally logging in over the next couple of hours

So this morning i questioned her over this and she was very unhappy with me snooping on her. i have no doubt she did have a migraine but my angle to her was how come you have time to communicate with folk of twitter and OF but not me for 5 minutes. Jealously crept in and i feel bad now.

I feel really low now for bringing this up as social media is her escape while she was recovering in bed. Im confused and dont know how i should of approached this subject. She says that im been insecure and thats my issue to deal with which maybe i am been.

Any thoughts or advice would be appreciated.

I think it’s very hard to call this a relationship after a month and you’ve barely seen each other
You don’t trust her or why did you check if she was online
Don’t think you’re cut out for long distance as you need to be able to deal with separation and being able to trust with distance between you
I think she’s right and you are insecure
And as for the OF account - she has people seeing her pics etc - that won’t help your feelings of jealousy etc

You shouldn't have snooped, as someone who suffers migraines there is a difference between surfing the internet and engaging in conversation.

But, If you are already feeling jealous over this I really don't think you should be involved with someone on Only Fans, it's only get worse for you. Her job is to visually stimulate others, and not everyone is suited to be involved with someone with that kind of job, and that isn't a reflection on you it's just a fact.

To be honest if I was her your behavior and reaction would have been a massive red flag for me and I'd be distancing myself from the relationship, once jealousy starts it only gets worse.

I suffer with migraines very frequently. Light sensitivity isn't too much of a problem for me so I can browse on my phone a bit. However I don't want to engage in communication, I don't have the mental capacity to think.

Don't mention this. You will sound like a creepy stalker. And tbh if you don't trust her then it didn't sound like a good start to a relationship.

Another person here who suffers from migraines - as others have said there is a big difference between browsing the Internet and communicating with a boyfriend.

Also, for such an early stage in the relationship you checking up on her isn't a good sign.

You are very much in the wrong here.
This “relationship” isn’t going to last.

If someone politely indicates they don’t want to communicate with you for whatever reason, it doesn’t mean they aren’t allowed to communicate with anyone else in any shape or form. You sound quite controlling, especially with someone you’ve known all of six weeks. You need to back off.

Migraines make all forms of communication hard - concentrating and engaging with people really is a struggle. If the eyes can take it, I will browse on my phone to try and distract myself from the pain and nausea. Mindless chat is fine...twitter etc is great because you can pick it up and drop it (and take breaks to throw up if required).

She's right you are a bit insecure but also remember people who have never had a migraine really do not understand what they are like. It is much more than a bad headache.

Logging on and bumming about on twitter or something else is completely different to having to hold a conversation with someone.

I think you really need to address your jealousy and if you really want a long distance relationship with someone.