To feel like friends/family always invite themselves over our house?

[hellokitty9]

Does anyone else experience this?
People saying "how about I come over?" and you can't really say no...having just agreed to meet up.
Or them just assuming if you get together - it's going to be at your house?

Christmas, birthdays, just general meet ups, (whatever it is!) with friends and family, EVERYONE always just assumes they will come over our house?

How do I get an invite over theirs instead? I'm fed up of hosting, cleaning up first, making sure we have snacks/food in for them, then tidying up after they leave!
Would love to be hosted instead of forever the host!!

Say you have a cleaner or decorators coming and would they rather a pub, or we can come to you!
We're the same and it feels like they take advantage!

I can’t say this has ever happened to me!

Next time someone does it, reply, ‘we always do it at mine-I’ll come to you this time’

See what they say…

I think you need to be direct about it! “We’ll come to you as you came to us last time”

I hear you! Am following this thread eagerly

Get in there first and say ‘yes let’s definitely get together, and I’ll come to you this time’

I had this for years and in the end I was just direct and said "would you mind if we went to yours this time, otherwise it's always me that does the hosting?"

One sibling replied "I can't have people round, I havent cut the grass" I said "cut the grass then, then you can have people round" - she just looked at me like I was an alien.

Generally, people who do this are just too lazy to bother and too tight to host. Always quite happy to get others to do it though.

They didn't invite me to their's after this comment, they did stop inviting themselves over too much.

Just as others have said, get in first to say I'll come to you this time.
Or say that you've been in the house all week and would prefer a change of scenery (cafe/pub/walk) rather than sitting in your living room.

I need a change of scenery, I'll come to yours or we can go out for coffee .

You answer “It’d be lovely to get together but how about I come to you as I’ve hosted the last few times”

It only happens to mugs.

They are users.

Just use any of the excellent suggestions above.

Start learning to say No, or this is your life.