Name changed as possibly outing.
My husband made no effort for my birthday last year. I picked my present, sent him the link for it and he ordered it. Paid for through our joint account. He booked us in to a buffet place that he wanted to go to for the afternoon. As it turned out, I was too poorly to go anywhere, but he could obviously see the disappointment on my face when he told me where he'd booked and said we could go elsewhere. He also got a card done with the most random picture of me that was slightly blurry and a terrible one at that. He got me no cake as he said he didn't have time, got me nothing else as he said he didn't know what to get, nor had the time.
Aibu to hardly bother to do anything for his?? It's his birthday soon!!