to expect people to keep their mouths shut when i've told them something in confidence?
LolaTheShowgirl · 26/12/2007 19:33
We was at a get-together at my aunt's house today. It was really nice except my uncle, who regularly drinks to the point he's becoming reliant on alcohol gets really verbally agressive when drunk but when sober, he's really nice. I was helping myself to some food and he passed me a jar of pickles and said "open that, will you sumo"....in reference to me being a sumo. I am rather large and this comment stung at the time but i'm over it now but as me and my mum was dicussing the party on the way home just now, I mentioned what he said and she's said she's going to call him and tell him exactly what he said and what a monster he is. I don't want any trouble and would prefer if it was left alone now as it doesn't bother me. I don't see him that often and when I do he's usually sober and nice. I just wish she would keep her oar out of it, rather than cause me grief.
bahKewcHumbug · 26/12/2007 21:41
I really don't think that telling someone they were insensitive is causing trouble - don;t be self-deprecating no-one should expect to be called name even in a misguided attempt at humour.
I would let you mum say something to him but ask her not to be confrontational about it. I wouldn;t hesitate to tackle my bro if he said something I found offensive about DS - armies would not hold me back!
CoteDAzur · 26/12/2007 21:50
In my experience, the only way to keep something a secret is not to tell anybody about it. Everybody talks. Even if the issue is not an emotional one which concerns their loved one. Which this is not.
If your own brother insulted your daughter, would you really be able to not say anything to him? If you are sure you would be able to "keep your mouth shut" in this situation, have a chat about privacy and respect with your mother.
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