I was with my last partner from beginning of 2019 through to summer 2020. He moved into my flat as lockdown started, but the pressure of living together in lockdown plus some other issues ended the relationship. We had been close & pre lockdown were thinking about moving up to Scotland together.
He’d always been open about his mental health issues, he is bipolar & had had bouts of serious depression. He’d used recreational drugs in the past, but so have I so this didn’t bother me.
We stayed friends since our breakup, with a few ups & downs. Earlier today he confessed he was a heroin addict. He swears he never used while we were together, but has gone back to drug use - managed 10 days clean over Xmas. He told me he’d split with the partner before me because of his addiction. He’d previously told me they’d split because she left him for someone else.
I feel so stupid. AIBU to think that this is a big deception at the heart of our relationship or am I overreacting & he was clean when we were together (not sure I believe that). He thinks we can just carry on being friends but I’m not sure I can do that. Neither of us have children.