Parking on shared access

[2u2years]

NC, need some perspective on this one.

It's a parking one. We have a shared access space for driveways. They are in a corner plot so need to drive completely over the shared access to get on drive. They have always used the shared access as an overflow driveway for visitors, with no consideration to us getting into and out of our drive. We have asked them so many time to move car's, not to use it as a parking area, not to block our cars.

See attached diagram. Today car's 4 and 5 were over the shared access again, we had one car on drive and one space, would have been extremely difficult to actually get second car onto driveway. Asked neighbour to move cars so second car can come onto drive. They do. When second car pulls onto drive neighbours bf walks across shouting 'you've got a problem with how we park?' with another person shouting that they weren't even blocking the drive.

AIBU to think I should be able to get onto my drive without having to ask neighbours to move cars from the shared access? It's not just me in the car so would mean leaving the littles in there while I do this.

Also, AIBU to think having neighbours shout at me when I get home because we have asked them to move cars actually means they are the nasty neighbours and not us?

YANBU

I would actually go over and ask if you can have a chat to work out a parking arrangement that works for both of you. Be overly nice and non confrontational. (Not because women should be nice- but because it sets the tone for the conversation and if they go nasty you know you have them every chance to be nice and they have nothing to throw back at you if it gets to a legal stage) Bring your partner if you have one, for security and support. If they refuse to discuss or refuse to leave the space free then park on it yourself every time.

Had a similar situation. Previous owners had allowed neighbours to park on entrance to shared drive. When we moved in we said we would prefer them not to as we were in and out at irregular times and sometimes late. They said not to worry, just knock and they would move. I was pg and had two little ones and I found it really annoying. Near to due date we said drive needed to be kept clear so we could get out in night to hospital if needed. We moved soon after. Have avoided shared drives since!

I would go and have a word with the home owners. I would explain it is a shard access and that their visitors are being very inconsiderate in blocking your access, and that it’s inconvenient to keep knocking and adding them to move

Added to which you have been harassed by the daughter bf and whoever the other person was and there was no need for that
Therefore it’s better that they show consideration for you as neighbours and stop blocking your access, after all how would they like it if you continually blocked access to their property

This isn't the first time it's happened. I can't upload a picture which is really annoying but basically they park on the shared access directly opposite our drive. If it was on a road they would be less than a roads distance from the drive. I always thought you weren't suppose to park opposite a driveway??

Normally when we ask they say they were just moving anyway won't happen again etc, but within a few days they are back again. Everytime we try and discuss it all we get is 'it's a shared drive we can use it how we like', so there's no chance of talking it out unfortunately.

When I was pregnant we had to tell them so many times that we might have to leave urgently (luckily it was fine). But now I've got two littles in the car it's such a hassle to keep going round and asking them to move.

We are so tempted to park over the access but honestly think they would just go through the car!!

Of course your neighbours are inconsiderate and clearly thuggish if they get the bf to come out shouting at you.

Who owns the access area? is it jointly owned?

If jointly owned I think this is a difficult one because you are clearly living next door to inconsiderate people and it's unlikely you will change their attitude. I think the only thing you could do in this situation is go and try and reason e.g. you are making it difficult for us to get in and out, can we agree that neither party parks on it? If they refuse then just start parking on it yourself. Get your parents/mates etc to come around. Or if you get back and can't get in then just block them and explain you wouldn't have been able to easily get out.

It's a difficult one, if you own it though - well you can do what you like - gates/bollards etc.