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To want a life again...

9 replies

frustratedhostage · 15/01/2022 10:01

I'm in a really tricky situation and could do with some independent views.

I'm separated but due to financial circumstances we are currently still living in the same house. We have separate lives as much as possible but the situation is far from pleasant.

I have tried everything to get the situation resolved amicably but it now looking as if it's going to need me to become more nasty/firm in order to be able to start again on my own.

I have no idea if he is seeing anyone or not and I haven't done anything either but recently something has changed.

A good friend/neighbour and I bumped into each other when our st a pub and things were just, different. He ended up kissing me (I had gone to give him a hug goodnight) and things escalated a little from there.

He's lovely. He's been there in the background as a really good friend for years and has always been there when I've needed help. He knows exactly what happened and what's happening in my life and has said that he wants to wait until I'm 'ready for him'

What does that mean? What do I do?
I'm so out of this whole dating game and I honestly haven't got a clue how to behave.

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inheritancetrack · 15/01/2022 10:26

Is he married, in a relationship?

ilovemybeachhut · 15/01/2022 10:36

Whatever happens you still need to get on with your own life and be firm about it whether it's dating someone or otherwise. If this guy is single and you want to then go for it.

frustratedhostage · 15/01/2022 11:56

He's very much single

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duvetdayforeveryone · 15/01/2022 11:59

@frustratedhostage

He's very much single
So what's the problem? Life is too short for waiting.
frustratedhostage · 15/01/2022 12:01

I think because we're still living in a house together I feel like I'm cheating. Which I know I'm not. I didn't mess up the marriage - he did so I'm not sure why I'm feeling worried. I definitely don't want to bring any drama to my doorstep

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wtfisgoingonhere21 · 15/01/2022 12:04

If you like him and he likes you why not start seeing each other?

Out for lunches,cinema walks etc that kind of thing?

It's not bringing drama to your door if your seperated and only there for financial.

Don't put your life on hold to not rock the boat op,your nearly ex dh did the boat rocking by the sound of it.

Don't mute your own life to keep the peace op
That's just bonkers

frustratedhostage · 15/01/2022 19:31

Oh my ex absolutely did the boat rocking.

Thank you so much for your opinions. I think I've been too worried about what people might think but actually, why not. I deserve to be happy

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likeafishneedsabike · 15/01/2022 19:49

Oooooh exciting start to a new relationship time! Don’t let the financial arrangement dampen the excitement Flowers

frustratedhostage · 15/01/2022 20:07

I'll try not too! I really like him. A lot.

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