confused by grandmas odd behaviour

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not really aibu but not sure where else to put it

my grandma is 82 - the last few months i’ve noticed she is totally oblivious to temperature of things. i have a 9 month old baby and she keeps trying to give her boiling hot things e.g. pasta straight from the pan, tried to put her in a bath that was literally steaming that i could barely keep my hand in because it was so hot etc. she does check these but apparently thinks they’re not hot? i’m so confused because everytime it is something literally steaming hot

she just tried to give her a cup of tea (yes boiling tea, i don’t want my baby drinking tea anyway but the burn risk is more my concern here). it was half full so i grabbed it before she could give it to her and said why are you giving her that it’s literally got steam coming out of it?? and she tried to wrestle it back and said it’s not even hot - it was fresh out the kettle!!

so confused - is this indicative of a health thing please? i don’t get how she just can’t feel temperature properly suddenly

• This sounds like a v specific symptom - sensory neuropathy. I think it’s worth investigation on its own, apart from the memory loss. Most common cause is diabetes. Could even be a tumour. Either way, you do need to ensure that she isn’t left alone with the baby.*

Agree, dementia is most likely, but this ^^ would definitely be something I would want to rule out.

Is the temperature deficit everywhere? It's worth asking her if she can still feel that things are hot on her abdomen/legs/feet or whether the deficit is just in her hands as this will help narrow down the cause

Why do people have to come on these threads and belittle other people’s comments? Does it make you feel superior, like you know everything and everyone else is wrong?
It IS normal to get to a certain age and develop dementia, so fuck off. It’s very rare that a person that age, suffers memory problems and it turns out to be something else.

OP, my my Dad’s dementia progressed rapidly from the point of him repeating stories. He was completely in a vegetative state when he passed away, 7 years later. He was like that for about 4 years.
However, I have a friend whose mum has been diagnosed with dementia for 3 years and she’s progressing very slowly. So I think it’s different for everyone and it affects men and women differently.

I find it odd that your 82 year old grandma would even be trying to feed or bathe your baby. Does she live in your house?