Chatting on tinder

[steadders21]

So.. have just started looking into dating after ending a long term relationship. Didn't expect much from Tinder - seemed full of creeps but have matched and chatted to two really nice people. AIBU to continue to chat to then both without letting them know the score? I don't know what it is I'm looking for. One is very easy to talk to and the other has been very flirty which has been fun. Don't know what to do as this is all very new and don't want to try overthink things as it may all come to nothing and maybe I should just enjoy the fun?

maybe I should just enjoy the fun?

bingo!

If they haven't asked to meet up with you already I would assume they have a wife/girlfriend/other women they are talking to and just using the site for an ego boost.

I think absolutely fine to chat to loads of people at the same time on dating apps. If you can be bothered, that is. You don’t know these people, you aren’t in a relationship with them.

I’m a dating app cynic but for me:
Flirty msgs = looking for sex or sexting
No meet up suggestion after a few days = time waster

@Chasingtime are you saying that's what OP is doing too since she hasn't asked them to meet up either?

IME long chats on tinder are rarely a good sign

@Senseofsomething that seems a good assessment- one has asked for a meet - the other has but it is for one thing - I'm feeling like if I'm meeting somebody I should prob back off the other but it's been along time since having sex and I'm enjoying the flirting 😂

We switched to WhatsApp pretty quickly - maybe I'm being naive but I don't think it's there's another partner in the background of either guy

Isn’t that the point of old? You chat to loads of people before you get serious with anyone? That’s normal and they will be chatting to other women as well you know?

You haven’t even met so why wouldn’t you talk to others

Tinder worked for me - now married with a 1 year old DD!

Enjoy the fun - I really liked Tinder and met some nice people from it. Yeah, there are weirdos but you can filter them out from the initial chat.

It’s got a rep as just being for casual hook-ups but I know loads of long term couples who met using it.

Unless you are at the point of being mutually exclusive with either of them then just continue as you are and enjoy yourself.

The flirty one who wants to meet but for just one thing, how do you feel about that? What is it that you want, do you just want some fun and not have the ties? Or are you wanting something steady with the possibility of developing further?

Chat to as many people as you like the sound of!!

Redcandy - Thanks that's what I though but it's all new territory- been out of the game for a looooonnnng time

Thanks ladies I will let you know how I get on 😉