When to expect exclusivity in relationship?

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I had conversations with friends. Essentially I said heterosexual men who are emotionally available and looking for a long term relationship know very very quickly if they want to be with you (two or three dates) and lock it down. Any longer than that they are wasting your time. Some friends agreed and some did not. I said the ‘going with the flow’, ‘I am just seeing where this goes’ men in their forties are generally chancers with their eyes on an ex or ‘someone better’. It suits them you are complying with their aloofness.

That has been my expierence anyway. Any ‘slow burn’ has been lack of interest from either me or the guy and it ends.
Any thoughts or expierences?

I don't have a lot of experience but yes this is exactly how I imagine dating to go. If they feel a spark they won't be interested in meeting anyone else

Yep. 100% this in my experience.

From personal experience, I think you are correct. If it’s exclusive after 4 dates max then they’re into you. Any more than that and they’re just playing the field.

Id agree with that.

I tend to agree unless non-exclusivity was part of the deal from the start (non-monogamous couples, you agreed it was casual).

Yep.