To think this a manipulative message from my ex?

[dearlord]

I co parent with my ex. I am male, she female we usually get on very well but we have had some problems recently. She sent me this text today and I find it manipulative. Basically you forgive me and coparent with me or our daughter (8) will be fucked up.

Text :

I'm sorry about today, I know you are used to me coming to your door and starting arguments, that's not my intention. I don't want to argue with anyone, it doesn't bring me joy. I was worried about Amelia, I still am, I want her dad to be 100 percent, but I know I don't have control of that. But please don't start disengaging with me. If you had answered your phone/texts then this would have probably been avoided. I want us all to have a good relationship, I told you the other night, it's good for Amelia to see. I know I've been untrustworthy in the past - but you are Amelia's dad, I don't want people gossiping about you. I'm not stupid, I also know my friends strengths and weaknesses and I know who can be trusted and who can't. I have lost a lot of sleep the past few nights about this, I worry not just for Amelia but for you. I care about you as Amelia's dad, I genuinely do. I don't want bad things to happen to you. I want you to be healthy and happy and regardless of what you think of me, I want it for Amelia. I would love if you would stop thinking we were enemies, I don't think you are my enemy - and I'm not yours. We both just want to raise amelia to be the best person she could be. Am I perfect? No. Are you? No. But I think that's okay, I don't think amelia needs to be raised around perfection, just love. And we love her, she knows that, but she needs to see us respecting each other, or else she's going to struggle with her own relationships when she is older.

AIBU?

She's sounds totally reasonable.

On the fence.

I don't know enough context.

I don't like the implication you have not been present or her suggestion that nobody's perfect, implying that any bad behaviour on her part should be forgotten but then twisting it to you. The tone is a bit condescending, too.

However, agree with the underlying sentiment that you need to put your feelings aside but I know it must be very hard while things are so raw. It will get easier

It’s not manipulative to ask and expect both of you to behave like decent human beings and put any shit you have aside and to put your daughter’s needs first and give her a happy, stable upbringing.

Surely you would want to co-parent amicably though? I don’t think she’s asking you to forgive - in fact she acknowledges you both have faults. She’s saying let’s make the most of this, out on a united front for the good of our daughter. At the least be civil and answer texts.

Unless there is a fairly twisted backstory, I cannot see how this is manipulative. It sounds like somebody desperate to make co parenting work. She doesn’t ask for your forgiveness at any point.