To my boyfriends tonight. We've only been involved a year and in a relationship since the summer. He's currently awaiting a scan and gone from earning a few grand a month to living off £650 a month. He can't go back to work as he's in extreme pain in his lower back he had an operation in 2016. It seems he's likely got another nerve trapped.
He's now in a financial mess. Not really his fault at all. He's worked hard all his life but has had 2 relationships before me where he ended up leaving with nothing and starting again and has not built up much in terms of savings since his last girlfriend and what he did have has gone on the last few months.
He spends most his time at home. We don't go out at the moment due to this situation. He's on amitriptyline to try treat the nerve pain. All they just knock him out for 3 or 4 hours then he's awake in pain on and off all night.
I've been so supportive and I've paid for bits and pieces so we can sometimes enjoy things. Due to Christmas I haven't got any spare cash this month to pay for anything extra and it's made him worry even more about things.
I was meant to stay over tonight but his been really negative all day and I can sense he's not in the best mood. I decided I didn't want to go to his because I couldn't quite read him and he kept saying he couldn't wait for bed etc. I was feeling like he wanted to take his tablets and sleep. I asked him what he thought about me going down and he got snappy and said just make a decision and stick to it. So I said I'd leave it.
I understand he's in so much pain and has alot of worries. But sometimes I just don't see the point in going to his so he can fall asleep half an hour after I get there.
Am I being mean to choose to stay home as its getting too same old with him.