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Would you complain about this?

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Oversensitiveo · 12/01/2022 17:11

Hi all, just wondering if IABU to be annoyed at this or if you would be too.

Had an appointment with my gynaecologist today as I have quite severe endometriosis and needed checking out due to some heavy bleeding. I am on a wait list for more surgery. Me and DP would like to try to conceive in the near future but that would be under guidance of the gynaecologist as I would I obviously have to come off contraception and at the moment that’s the only thing stopping me from bleeding constantly.

I tried to discuss it with her and she took my weight and height and told me I was over weight as my BMI was 25. She also told me that she would not discuss my fertility until I lost some weight as she would like my BMI to be around 22.

I am bleeding currently and 7 pounds heavier than I was on Saturday which is usual with my endometriosis. I am 5 ft 8 and usually 11 stone 7 pounds. Today I weigh 12 stone. I expect my weight to drop again when I’m off my period.

I am extremely fit, go to the gym 5 times a week and lift heavy weights. My visceral fat is 2 (so very low) and I am a size 8. The only thing I struggle to wear in a 8 is jeans as they won’t stretch over my legs. Most of my weight is from muscle mass. It is very obvious that I am a heavy gym goer, I have a huge amount of muscle mass on my lower legs and glues and very little body fat. Everyone is always extremely shocked when I tell them how much I weigh and I’ve even had the hospital think the scales were broken in the past. I questioned this with my gynaecologist and asked her what I should do as my BF% is already low and she told me to “lose more weight” and said once I do then she will discuss me getting pregnant. I’m not sure if it’s worth noting but I have a long history of anorexia which she knows as I was worried this would effect my fertility too so I think that makes this comment even more shocking.

I am extremely shocked at this as I thought a lot of doctors operated under the impressed BMI is quite outdated now a days especially when a patient who is clearly not over weight is presenting in front of them? I know the NHS is struggling at the moment so I probably shouldn’t add more pressure by asking for a second opinion but my DP thinks I should. What would you do?

OP posts:
Aprilx · 12/01/2022 17:27

I certainly think you should do something to push this, that sounds very unreasonable to say the least. Aa

I am the same height as you, I am 50 now and definitely overweight but I was normal weight though out my 20s and 30s. I am amazed you re size 8 at 12 stone, you must be pure muscle! I was always a size 14 when I was anywhere between 11-12 stone. (That was an aside as I am genuinely really surprised, not a comment on the treatment matter, as I say, I think that is ludicrous).

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