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To ask how to get over selling house after separation?

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Heltonwelton · 12/01/2022 14:17

I left my fiancé this time last year after realising deep down that we weren't right for each other. I love him and care deeply for him but after many ups and downs (that's for another thread) we were living like brother and sister. I enjoyed his company for the most part but there was no physical attraction at all.

We were planning to book our wedding this year and had been together since University. Although I have times of sadness when I think back to our Uni days and memories after that, I know that I have made the right decision.

The difficulty I have is in selling our home. What was meant to be ours and we had plans to redecorate and do up together. We're due to exchange on Friday and I am feeling heartbroken. I don't want to let it go and the thought of others moving in and redecorating hurts.

I know I've made the right decision in leaving but why is the house so difficult to let go?

Has anyone else felt this or am I just being totally unreasonable?

I know I probably am being unreasonable - it's only a house, and ultimately I made this decision so I need to suck it up. But anyone else who's been there please let me know.

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LittleOwl153 · 12/01/2022 14:22

I think selling your home is a tough gig anyway. Even if you are moving to bigger/better things with all the occupants of the house.

Add to this the separation of your relationship too its going to out the final seal on that which you might not be quite sorted with yet.

Also I think if this is your first home post university or first settled home that you are now moving from that is going to be unsettling too.

You will be fine. Once the day is over. Onwards and upwards! Wine

Heltonwelton · 12/01/2022 15:11

Thank you @LittleOwl153 Yes this was my first home and in the city we went to Uni too so difficult in many ways. I honestly thought the leaving would be the hardest part but no it turns out leaving this house is harder.

I think you're right though, once Friday is over with and then completion the week after I'll hopefully be ok to move on from it.

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Tricked2003 · 12/01/2022 15:35

You are grieving for the life you had planned.... the house sale is forcing you to accept a new future.
It will get better, far better to make a fresh start than stay in a dead relationship.
Doing the right thing doesn't mean it's easy.

AwayW0rldExit4 · 12/01/2022 15:41

You will have your freedom !

You can't put a price on that

Free to do & go where you decide

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