Kids had contact night with their dad last night. He and I have amicable co parenting relationship, mostly enabled by me biting my tongue a lot.
Today is our eldest's tenth birthday. Ex drops them off holding a bunch of flowers. I stupidly thought he was taking a moment to appreciate everything I've done raising our child over the last decade, esp considering he has some SEN which have required extra work, all of it from me, obviously. Because he's only the dad
Turns out the flowers were for the youngest as a not-birthday thing. So then I was both hurt and embarrassed by my own daft assumptions. Why would anybody appreciate me, let alone the father of my children?
I am aware I am being unreasonable to be upset, although my unreasonable to be embarrassed.
Just needed to tell someone and too embarrassed to tell anyone who knows me.
How unreasonable am I to think the father of my children (who feels guilty and owes me quite a lot, which he does occasionally acknowledge) who fucked off for another woman would say or do anything appreciative on this ten year anniversary of becoming parents?
YABU - oh come on woman, stop being a twat
YANBU - YABU, but I might have had a moment of misunderstanding too so I won't castigate you too badly.