Paying board

[Kleppy10]

I moved in with my bf last year, into his home.
My son is a college student, not working, however my bf expects him to pay board out of his disabilty allowance.

My bf's daughter is at uni but living at home. She gets the full maintensnce grant but is allowed to spend it on what she likes and not pay board.

Yes, its his house and he chooses to keep her, so this could be fair? However my bf says that the dla money is to keep him, surely a mainteance grant is too -not for designer clothes ....

I would appreciate your thoughts.

Where the money comes from is irrelevant.

Did you not think to discuss this before you moved in?

Are you and your BF splitting the bills 50/50?

Honestly OP, I don't think it was the best idea moving in with him, both your adult children are studying and receive money but he only wants yours to pay?

The only way I could see him being even slightly justified would be if he's paying all/the majority of the bills so saying he's contributing his daughters share - but even then I would be expecting him to ask you for more not your son.

I do agree that it's fair to ask adult children living at home for a small contribution but definitely not fair to ask one and not the other imo

I buy all of the food and pay about a third of the bills so roughly equal

Of course a college student shouldn't have to pay board. Especially not from their DLA ffs.

Did you not discuss this before moving in??

If his daughter gets the full maintenance loan not grant then your household income must be very low and she needs to pay that back at some point.
You say it is his house - does he own it mortgage free?
I cannot help feel there must be a reason he is asking for the money. What did you discuss before you moved in?