To tell her I do have time?

[Dontletthemuggglesgetyoudown]

I'm 30, 31 in July. I started a new job in November, and I'm finally coming off medication that has made me put on a bit of weight.

I want to take this year, lose weight, get fit, go on a holiday or 2 and then start trying next year when im 31.5 I told my mum about my plans to wait a bit because we were talking about initially trying again this year and she said I didn't have any time to wait and we should get going immediately because of my age..

Aibu to think that 31 is not too old to start trying for a baby?

@Dontletthemuggglesgetyoudown

31-32 is fine to start trying for a baby. I would not leave it much longer though. Do ignore the silly and dangerous comments telling you to wait til you're in your early 40s though. That's utter madness, and utterly ludicrous.

I don't think you're unreasonable at all for thinking 31 is not too old to start trying for a baby.

Or is the issue that you will be less fertile at 31 than at 30? Maybe but who knows?

The best time to start trying for a baby is when it's right for you - no one else,
including your mum gets to vote on this.

Agree with TheDevine - the best time is when you feel ready, it's nothing to do with your mother (or anyone) unless you specifically asked their opinion. It's not a subject I would ever discuss with anyone else ... apart from my DH.

Personally I got pregnant at 42, which was 'right' for me ... I appreciate it's not right for everyone but 31 sounds young to me (just as 42 will sound old to many ). I knew I never wanted more than one child and it wouldn't have been the end of world if I didn't get pregnant.

Make your own choice - and don't discuss it!

You just don't know that's the thing? I started age 29/30 and took us several years with several losses

A professor who rings one of the big IVF clinics said if you want more than one child then really you should start trying in your early 20s and if you want one child early 30s

Personally, I think taking some time to get yourself physically and mentally in a good place is a great idea after what we've all been through, and your own health in particular - you need to feel ready, and it sounds like you're almost there. Of course people are right that you shouldn't delay for too long, but that's not what you are planning to do anyway.