To want it to be about me, just once

[Girlsgoingonteenagers]

I tested positive for covid. No one else in family did they've all had recently. Granted I'm not that ill but DH and DC (9 and 5) literally don't even acknowledge the fact that I might be! It's the same everytime I'm ill, tired, stressed....someone else is always more ill, tired or stressed.

OK so the DCs are too young to really understand but DH should surely?

I literally cooked a full Sunday dinner on my own and then he stropped cos I touched his plate with my "covid hands" at the end.....i touched everything on the table cos I cooked ALL OF IT.

to be honest I hate been made a fuss of but it would it be nice to think people would be happy to.

I'm sorry you are ill....but you are being a martyr. My mum used to do this when ill, infact I actually think she used to do more housework/fancy cooking etc to prove a point and moan. If we asked what needed doing, we'd get a sarcastic reply. If we dared try to do anything to help, we wouldn't have done it right. I.e. make a meal with ingredients from the fridge that were going off, but it wouldn't have been the meal she would have made or put a washing on but actually she wanted to a boil wash of tea towels or something, but wouldn't have said. If we said to go to bed and rest, we'd get a huff about nothing getting done. It was tiring so we just gave up. You need to give people space to help you... you might just be my sister

@Yotrotro

I'm sorry you are ill....but you are being a martyr. My mum used to do this when ill, infact I actually think she used to do more housework/fancy cooking etc to prove a point and moan. If we asked what needed doing, we'd get a sarcastic reply. If we dared try to do anything to help, we wouldn't have done it right. I.e. make a meal with ingredients from the fridge that were going off, but it wouldn't have been the meal she would have made or put a washing on but actually she wanted to a boil wash of tea towels or something, but wouldn't have said. If we said to go to bed and rest, we'd get a huff about nothing getting done. It was tiring so we just gave up. You need to give people space to help you...

I was about to type exactly the same thing. I think part of it with my mum was that she didn't want people to be able to manage perfectly well without her. Perhaps she felt it would have diminished her role. It was quite annoying really. It would have been much less tense if she had just gone to rest somewhere. Dad didn't do domestic stuff unless he absolutely had to. If she was there he let her get on with it.

Why did you cook a roast?! Just don't do this shit. If you're ill, go to bed. Tell everyone you need rest. If you're not, cook what the fuck you want and don't moan about it. Or let someone else cook if you want. Your husband sounds like a dick mind. My covid hands wouldn't go near his dick for weeks based on that comment.

I'm afraid I agree with those who have said you've brought alot of it on yourself. Why didn't you ask for help with the dinner?

If he have stropped at me I would honest have chucked his plateful in the bin. Don't like it, cook your own. Prick.

We did a lot of jokes about covid cookies covid pizza etc when I had covid the difference was we were all finding it funny its just me and the kids one has possible dyspraxia and is so uncoordinated he can't get pizza in and out of the oven without it being a disaster so I cooked two hungry kids with sen need to be fed the eldest "helped" tried to make a sandwich made toast but the main meal I needed to cook washing up I needed to do (my eldest washing up a knife just doesn't bear thinking about)

You have a fully functioning ADULT in the house what the fuck is his excuse for not helping 🤔

Why did you cook a roast?

Maybe stay in bed tomorrow - explain your feeling really rough and too unwell to cook dinner / sort the kids etc. It sounds as if your husband is taking you for granted big time. Once he has had a day in your shoes then maybe he will appreciate what u do for the family - even when unwell with a virus !