That Drs don’t know you need pain relief if you don’t use your words

[Singlebutmarried]

Just that really

Back in hospital waiting to be assessed on the emergency surgery ward. I’ve asked for pain relief and have been given both paracetamol and morphine.

Lady in next door cubicle only asks for pain relief when there’s no staff around, has called her partner to bring in her own supply of pain relief. Every time she’s been asked how’s the pain, do you need pain relief she’s just said nothing.

She’s phoned at least three separate people to say she’s not receiving correct care, but when offered pain relief she refuses it.

It’s now escalated to her ranting, raving and swearing profusely and there’s an awful lot of ill people in here.

Honestly it’s driving me bonkers (just waiting for my headphones to charge so I don’t have to listen to it)

No advice needed. Just ranting.

@Singlebutmarried sorry you are in hospital and have pain being an inpatient is so hard. I’m a nurse and 100% agree with you. The number of patients who decline a shower (despite encouragement) then at visiting times there were angry relatives tapping their fingers complaining their mother isn’t being offered a wash. Or who’s had 6 cups of tea and finished a jug of water which has been taken away to refill and taken 40 minutes complaining they’ve not had a drink all day . Being left without pain relief is awful and of course does happen but to refuse and then complain is baffling.

[quote 4pmwinetimebebeh]@Singlebutmarried sorry you are in hospital and have pain being an inpatient is so hard. I’m a nurse and 100% agree with you. The number of patients who decline a shower (despite encouragement) then at visiting times there were angry relatives tapping their fingers complaining their mother isn’t being offered a wash. Or who’s had 6 cups of tea and finished a jug of water which has been taken away to refill and taken 40 minutes complaining they’ve not had a drink all day . Being left without pain relief is awful and of course does happen but to refuse and then complain is baffling.[/quote]
My mind is boggled. The amount of shite coming out of her mouth is bonkers.

The nurses on the ward are manic, and there’s too many patients per nurse.

But surely if you’ve got a regular morphine prescription you mention it when you come in.

I think some people may not be able to ask. They find it hard. Possibly not neuro typical for example. It is difficult when you are on a ward and having to deal with it though. Hope you are home soon and sorted

@4pmwinetimebebeh yes. You are so right. I'm a paediatric nurse and we get the same. I always document that they've been offered a wash but declined!

I guess she may have some kind of MH issues if she's ranting and raving to herself. I hope you're out of hospital really, really soon, I've had some really horrible experiences visiting people in hospitals who have had to put up with all sorts of horrible behaviour.

She sounds mentally unwell.

I hope you headphones charge soon. Also you could see if they have earplugs.

She could have other issues, mental health, dementia, anything really.
Be aware this could go on through the night so make sure your headphones are well charged.
Hope you feel better soon. Hospital wards are tough at the best of times and being in pain makes everything worse.

It could even be something as simple as social anxiety. I have to accompany my 15 year old with severe SA to anything medical because he just clams up. His 13 year old brother, by contrast, is completely fine.

I agree. You need to say if you are having pain. Everyone has the right to decline pain relief even if they are in pain and you cant give someone pain relief on the assumption they need it when they aren't saying yes when offered. You can offer, which they are but if the person is able to communicate and is not saying yes you can't just randomly give them pain relief

It would help if they called them pain relief rather than analgesia.

I am sorry you are in hospital OP and I hope you get some rest tonight

It is potentially a MH related problem. In hospital it is best not to judge as you don't know what is going on with people.

When I was in post lumber puncture I asked each time they came round to give me painkillers. One dr refused and accused me of being a druggie. The others would go to get me the painkillers and not bother coming back and only one Dr gave me Oromorph once which eased the pain enough to be able to sit up and eat one meal. I couldn't press the buzzer to ask for anything else because my bed didn't have one. I lost consciousness from the pain and dehydration and the 2 women in the beds next to me had to press theirs to get the Drs in. That was the only day they gave me oromorph. I spent a further 5 days writhing around in agony. And no I'm not a druggie. I'm just thankful the next time I was admitted for 10 day migraine and unable to balance properly I I was given pain relief straight away. It also meant once the pain was under control I could be discharged quicker