Am I weird?

[anxiousmamaof3]

Help me out ladies.

I have autism and hate meeting new people, I get so anxious.
A mum from DDs school messaged me on Facebook asking if I wanted to set up a play date with her DD while she pops in for a coffee.
I've never met this mum, can't even call her out on the school run as I don't know what she looks like (no photos on Facebook either!)

I don't know how to address it, having a complete stranger to my home would cause me a complete meltdown mode. I've already made one excuse in the past but she keeps insisting. I've never really spoken to her before either so have no idea what she's like.

How do I deal with this? I know I'm weird!

Actually I wouldn't be keen at all on this. It's a bit odd of them to invite themselves to your house! I would suggest meeting somewhere out like a playground as others have suggested.

Ask DD to point out her DC in the playground so you know what she looks like, then suggest the park or similar as pp have said. She is odd to invite herself to your house having never even spoken in person!

I dont know play date etiquette ( no DCs ) but this does seam very odd . I cant think of any situation where someone invites themselves your house even if you know them , let alone never actually met .

I agree with PP there seems to be a ulterior motive , either she wants you baby sit , sell you something , ask a favour , try to get you to pick up drop off her DC at school etc .

First ask your DD if she knows the other ladies child , get her to point her out next time you are at the school gates, is she friends with the child ?
If not then you need to be polite but blunt with the lady and say no thanks.
If your DD does know and likes the other girl , tell the lady that yes you would love to meet up and you could go to the local park / cafe / coffee shop etc .
Be firm on her not coming to your house and while it may be the easier option to give a excuse of DH working from home / decorating / house is untidy etc it will only make her think that there is a option for her to come at some point in the future .
Go with , its really nice to spend some time out of the house , its lovely weather ( not right now obs ) I love the coffee / cake / etc at xxx it will be a real treat .
Also have a thing you need to go and do at a certain time so there is no chance of her dragging the meeting out or trying to invite herself to your home after coffee

@anxiousmamaof3

She doesn't look MLM, seems genuine. I will say to meet up somewhere public as that's the safest option but I don't even know what she looks like how will I know it's her, I usually do everything with my carer because I get so anxious and I can't bring them along. I don't want to say "what do you look like" either haha.

You tell the child you're going to meet X in the park and you're going to play a game of "who can spot them first"

You're definitely not weird. Having new people in my house stresses me out so much!

I don't have any sort of social anxiety and I'd find that odd!

Just text back

Yes sure sounds good , I'm snowed under at the moment so not a great time
Give me a wave in the playground and maybe we could go to the park if I don't have to rush off

You aren't being weird