To ask if you ever put yourself down?

[TooMuchSugar22]

Reading another thread about how others have put you down or been horrid which is disgusting and cruel.

Do you ever put yourself down

I don't think I ever remember things that's have been personally said about me. But I know there have been.
But I remember many lies I've been told and I beat myself up that I never called people out on them, especially with an ex.

However I put myself down EVERYDAY!
I call myself fat, ugly, a 'moose', haggard looking
I'm a size 14 to 16, nearly 40 and boring average looking. Don't wear make up or do pretty hair styles. Either straighten down or shoved back in a bunch. Never have made that daily effort as I'd feel over done?

I am trying to lose weight 6lb since NY.
I want to get to what I got to before a size 10 but that was because I was starving myself pretty much or if i ate bad food I'd make myself sick that night.
I then got together with dh and was happy. Went up to a 12 to 14. Ate better etc
Had the dcs now I'm this size.

Every day without fail I can't help it. Dh says how much he loves me. I say how how can u love me being like this?
Constantly make ' jokes' out of my own weight. Chub rub, thunder thighs, etc
He always ways says its not true.he loves me a size 10 or 30.

I can't help it. I don't know how to stop. But I fear this trying to diet will lead to how I used to see food just so I can feel a bit better slimmer.

It's easy to put yourself down. Others will agree with you because you said it.

You've got to try to catch yourself before you attack yourself.

You have a loving husband and children who love you. What size you are doesn't matter so long as you are happy. You need to build up your self confidence so you can happily say positive things about yourself.

It's difficult. But you can do it x

I have a cure. I really do. Every morning, read a couple of pages of a self help type book on happiness, self confidence etc. Then drink water, exercise daily (doesn't matter how tiny - even doing 5 pushups or a 15 min yoga with Adrienne video or a walk round the block). Eat a great, healthy breakfast and celebrate yourself majorly, daily, for doing these 3 things. Even if it feels bonkers. Literally jump up, and down and shout Go me! Then listen to 'I am affirmations' (search on YouTube) while you're in the shower/bath/getting ready. I bet you anything in 2 weeks you'll be feeling a LOT better.

Thanks it's odd as I get the odd moment of like fuck it. This is who I am. There's skinnier and larger than me. We're all different. Then straight away I change to I'm humongous which my sane head knows it's not. I don't struggle with mobility. I run around play centres etc after my dcs. Walk miles with ease. But I can't get past how I'm seeing myself.

OP you could actually be me. This is exactly how I feel about myself. It's really debilitating sometimes. I think I look ok when I make the effort to do my make up and wear something nice (with control underwear underneath!) but the rest of the time I avoid looking at myself in the mirror.

My DH gets annoyed with the comments I make about myself. He often asks if I like myself. I do like myself. I can see I have redeeming features (both physical and personality wise) but the intrusive thoughts about how horrible my body looks don't go away.

I'll be following this thread with interest. Sorry I can't offer more advice, just solidarity

No - and I tell other women not to if they do it in front of me. We should all be far more accepting of ourselves, have fewer regrets and enjoy the people we have become as adults.

I probably do in my head.
I would generally avoid saying things out loud to other people though, unless I wanted to talk about something specific with my DH.

There’s a woman I work with who does this a lot and it’s just horribly awkward. What am I meant to do with what she says. If she says “oh I’m so fat” I can’t exactly argue she isn’t, nor do I feel comfortable agreeing with her either. It puts me in a socially uncomfortable position.