To ask them to do more?

[pollyparrot45]

I am obviously very anxious and stressed over this and I need to know if I'm being unreasonable or if I should push harder.

I am currently 6 weeks pregnant. Based on my LMP I should be 6+6 today.

I had almost 10 days of spotting around the time of my missed period and so was seen at EPU for a scan at 6+4. Unfortunately they couldn't see a fetal pole or heartbeat and just a sac with a yolk sac. They've booked me in for a rescan in two weeks so 20th December to see what's going on.

I didn't take a pregnancy test until 24th December as I thought the start of the spotting was AF, it wasn't until it didnt really get going I tested.

I had a private scan booked for next week but they've cancelled as they don't like to do scans where there's active NHS 'treatment'.

I'm so stressed and feel desperately depressed being stuck in limbo. There's good and bad signs, I don't have many pregnancy symptoms but clear blue has progressed from 2-3 when I first tested to 3+ at 5+5. I feel like 14 days is an unnecessary long time.

I've asked for blood tests and the GP declined and said better to have a scan but now the scan was inconclusive should I be pushing EPU to start some 48 hr bloods to atleast give me an idea of which way things are going? I need to prepare myself for what's to come either way.

I understand they've said scan in two weeks because they'll be able to definitively say it's viable or not by then but I don't think they've considered the impact on my well-being of being stuck not knowing what's going on.

Should I push for bloods or AIBU and impatient because I'm sad?

Just book another private scan but don't tell them about the NHS intervention?

Unfortunately I can't afford another private scan. I've paid up front and it was £79. I can't afford another £79 before pay day as it's been Christmas etc and we're short as it is.

I’m sorry. It sounds so stressful but realistically there isn’t anything else the nhs will do at this early stage. I hope all goes well

Can you get your money back and go elsewhere?

If I get my money back I'll lose atleast £30 as there's a non - refundable deposit. They said when I called if I have to cancel due to a miscarriage they'll refund it in total but I don't feel comfortable lying.

I'm sorry but as hard as it is you really do just have to wait .................

I've seen lots of people have 48 hr bloods. Is there a reason why some people qualify for this and others don't. I mean medically? Surely this would tell them if the pregnancy was progressing or not

48 hour bloods are probably when there’s a suspicion of ectopic pregnancy. Unfortunately in your situation it is a wait and see and keep your fingers crossed scenario. There is no medical benefit to scanning sooner even though it would ease your anxiety. Really sorry.

Wishing you the best.

Sorry OP - I can’t make out the timeline so it’s confusing but I would guess that at the stage you are at, bloods will still be ambiguous and the only way to be sure is a scan.

Wouldn’t rather know definitively rather than have inconclusive information?

The timeline is -

LMP - 22nd November

Spotting started - 19th December (presumed AF)

Positive test - 24th December

Spotting stopped around 28th December

Seen at EPU on 6th Jan and scan showed a sac and yolk sac but no fetal pole or heartbeat. They are unsure if it was too early or if I've had a MMC so they've booked a rescan on 20th January.

Of course I'd rather know for sure but by the time I have my re scan it would have been a month since I started bleeding and it's just a long time to be in limbo.

It is horrible but I think at this stage there's really nothing to do but wait and see.
I'm sorry it is crap though.
I remember the feeling of counting down the days until a scan :(

I had this too. The 48hr bloods are only if they couldn't see a sac in uterus on first scan or you have symptoms of ectopic. Re-scanning in 2 weeks is the correct management. I tried to keep myself busy and distracted during my wait. Good luck.

Im sorry, those 2 weeks between early scans are horrid. But they space them like that to give them the best chance of giving you an answer when you go back.

In ny case, I got bloods, as I was pregnant, but scan couldn't see anything - so not getting bloods is actually a positive, as they only do it when they are really concerned.

I'm obviously just being high maintenance with the stress.

I think I know really my dates aren't wrong so I'm worried things are not ok.

Has anyone had a positive outcome having not had fetal pole or heartbeat at 6 1/2 weeks?

6 weeks is so early! And you could easily have ovulated later than you think and it'd be closer to 5 weeks. So don't panic yet!

It's so tough to wait but honestly there is nothing that anyone can do medically.

Unless you are in extreme pain and at risk of ectopic then no need to do bloods.

Otherwise there is no medical need to see you yet. And waiting means that there is a greater chance of having a answer.

Lots of epu won't scan before 8 weeks unless risk to maternal health

Hi, I’m just wondering what your outcome was when you were rescanned? I am in the same position and two week wait is killing me, it’s only been two days.

Hope you had a positive story xxx