I casually mentioned to my mum earlier that I'm trying to lose weight. I've put on a bit over the last few years and the time has come to do something about it! Have about 3.5 stone id like to shift, but I will say (and this is important) that whilst my weight pisses me off in a superficial way, it hasn't made me miserable or had an impact on my self esteem significantly or really made me feel shit about myself. I've just loved my tucker too much and not moved enough 
. I know that I am a good person, with kindness and humour in my favour and that whether I have one spare tyre or two or none makes no difference to these things that I value so highly.
I then received a text from my step dad (they've been together since I was 18, he's a wonderful grandfather to my 3 children, no distinction between whether he's a bio grandparent or not) which was worded from both of them offering to "sponsor" my weight loss to quite a considerable sum. Per lb. We're talking a total of a few thousand pounds
I know that mum is keen for me to lose weight because I think that she is embarrassed of my size (18-20 and 5ft 7 if that is an issue!). I obviously don't like this judgey side of her but until now I have been able to ignore it. She has form for being quietly judgey and has absolutely no shame!
I also know that they are always trying to give me cash as sometimes I struggle a bit and I don't know whether this is their aim. I'm a single parent but I do earn a decent ish wage, just have no savings behind me so when something like the car or the boiler goes wrong unexpectedly it's a right clusterfuck and I naturally have a good moan to mum about stuff. They've offered to lend or even give me cash before but I've politely declined as whilst it's generous of them I'd much rather they spent it on themselves and I've stopped telling mum when things break or go wrong as they invariably try to pay for it. (They definitely can afford it but this isn't the point. I struggle to accept offers of help at the best of times but cash is just so....I don't know. Makes me feel icky. That's the only word for it!) They have bought a few big-ticket items for me in the past- think hoover, shed and dining table but these were specific gifts for a big birthday etc. I appreciate their generosity in this way, it's so kind of them- I just feel uncomfortable with them spending cash that they've worked for their whole lives on me just getting by.
On one hand their offer makes me feel like they are so desperate for me to lose weight that they will pay me (quite a lot) to do so which makes me really disappointed in them and feel like they don't really know me or my values. On the other hand they have faith in me that I will succeed in losing the weight that I want to and are clumsily trying to sneak cash into my purse using weight loss as a ruse. Which doesn't make me disappointed but does make me feel stupidly uncomfortable.
I think the vote is:
YANBU- their offer is insulting
YABU- it's fine, just a bit clumsy