Mother inviting relative to mine while I try to avoid contact with public

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I want to preface this with I’m clinically extremely vulnerable and recovering from a double infection over Xmas. I’m not expecting the world to stop for me but I am in self imposed shielding because the vaccines have very limited possibly no effect due to medication I take to suppress my immune system. I have to shield every winter not just due to covid. Regardless I am fully c19 vaccinated.

My mother is coming to mine to drop off my (fully vax’d) kids Christmas presents. I know my mother is generally very safe and tests regularly. She has invited my antivax/it’s all a conspiracy cousin & her family over to my house to get the Christmas presents for her unvax’d kids. My mum didn’t ask me if this was ok, she only did so because it was easier for her than dropping them off at hers. I told my mum my cousin wouldn’t be able to come in to my house and I got a bollocking from her about how would it look to the family if I refuse her entry and how I’m being totally unreasonable.

I know I’m not being unreasonable with regards to it being my house, my rules. That’s a given but when we consider the reality of family dynamics out with MN utopia, AIBU as someone actively avoiding the public (no I’m not going to shops etc) for not wanting my cousin to come in for a visit and a chat knowing he is neither vaccinated nor giving a shit about spreading the “it’s just a cold” virus?

Can you text your cousin and say your not feeling well so will just leave presents out in the porch for her?
It depends how much you are concerned about offending your cousin, but if you have bought her kids presents you probably are better with an excuse rather than refusing her entry.

What trump said. Please don't cave to stop your mother having a hissy fit.

text the cousing directly and tell her not to come.
If she does turn up, put gifts on the doorstep

If your mother is spending time with the dodgy cousin I wouldn't let her in either.

Stand your ground. A firm "no."

Perfect opportunity for a classic MN not answering the door. You don't have to see them or let anyone in, stand firm.

Also CEV and still shielding. That's a big fat No to your mum. Your house your rules. Especially when it comes to heath.

Tell your mum not to bother coming. Get one of your (vaxxed) kids to drop them round

It would be an absolute no from me. Stand your ground. Frankly your mother should be protecting you and thinking ultimately of your situation.

"Hi cousin, sorry, but when mum suggested you come to my house to collect the presents, she obviously forgot that I'm shielding (as I have to every winter) due to my immune system suppressing medication. I'm happy for you to pick them up at the door, but unfortunately I can't invite you and the family in. I hope you understand.
It's really frustrating, as I'd love to be able to have visitors, but I have to do as my doctor says."

If she mentions your mum visiting you, simply say you can only have immediate family visit, and then only if they're triple vaxxed and masked.

I'd tell your mother to not bother coming either. She doesn't sound nice at all.