Hi, I live with my partner and son. my son is 17 has autism, partner is 59 there is a 21 year age gap between myself and oh.
I work part-time as I have been diagnosed with multiple sclerosis. Due to this, my finances are a lot lower than before. My oh, and myself are not getting on,as he thinks am not contributing enough towards bills. I pay £250 each month for bills. There is no mortgage. an then pay £700 a month towards the debt I owe him for bills when I couldn't work for a year. I was trying to get benefits so he helped me financially. I owe him £5000. Each month I'm left with just enough to buy petrol. I can't afford nights out and if we do have a night out I would have to borrow money to cover it.
Due to me not being able to contribute more, I do all the cooking cleaning washing and making his packed lunches. Doing this with a part-time job and looking after my son. (Not his son) my ms constantly flares and I'm burnt out. I'v been so sick over Christmas, I couldn't physically get out of bed for 3 weeks. Today we have fallen out because I said we could do with a new duvet and pillows. He flipped and said I need to buy them, he buys everything. The thing is he doesn't he just banks all his money and waits till I end up just buying what we need, or asking to borrow money to pay for said items. I feel used and as I have no money I'm dependent on him. I feel like a failure I would do more if I could, I just physically can't. He will now blank me for a couple of days or tell me to get out. I don't no what to do as I have no money to move