To ask how to stop revenge porn

[Wallywobbles]

This is a guardian article about revenge porn. The scale of it is crazy.

I have 3 teen girls and it doesn't matter how often you say no photos / live nudes they will still do them.

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2022/jan/06/i-have-moments-of-shame-i-cant-control-the-lives-ruined-by-explicit-collector-culture?CMP=ShareiOSAppp_Other

I think the only tool we have is awareness. Some of the threads on here with partners surreptitiously filming show a worrying naivety and a willingness to bury heads in the sand.

Education and awareness like you say, and harsher more enforced punishments for offenders.
We need to be pushing this during secondary school level Sex Education and showing the consequences of what happens to both victims and offenders.

The most important thing we can do is ensure people are educated in the technology used to store and share images. Personally I only store nudes in "cold"/offline encrypted storage. Many phones automatically upload photographs to online storage which can get hacked.

That's putting aside the risk of a partner or ex sharing them - you can't necessarily control what someone else does with your pictures, but you can ensure that you store them in a place they can't be hacked.

The other thing to spread awareness of is copyright law. If you take the photo yourself, you own the copyright to that image. If someone shares it you can sue them. If you pose for someone else they own the copyright and basically they can do what they like with it.

For that reason my "golden rules" would be

1. Only take nudes of yourself, don't allow anyone else to
2. Store them on an encrypted drive that you keep somewhere safe.
3. Don't keep them on a drive that's permanently connected to your computer.
4. Try to be as unidentifiable as possible - not just in terms of your face being visible but ensure there is nothing in the background that is related to you. There's a "women's nude empowerment site" out there where the models are ordinary women posing in their own home. Fine, if that's what they want to do, but one of them is posing next to her degree stating her name/qualification. That's ill-advised and helps people that the OP's article identify and classify photos they find.
5. Never send via email or upload to online storage.

DH and I were talking about this earlier and we have a strict no nude policy and no identifying photos on social media.

But our photos are on at least 3 storage platforms. If someone hacks Dropbox or Google photos or whatever it's just millions of potentially life destroying photos.

Just don't do nude photos?

Will they do it? You make out like everyone does, I’ve never sent a nude pic or video ever, I don’t get why people do

Surely the golden rule should be

Don't do nudes.

I’ve drummed it into mine that if they do nudes (telling them just not too isn’t a sensible option imo) they must must must make sure they are unidentifiable - no faces, no marks, no tattoos, no background information that gives away their name or location.

Also I’ve made sure they are well aware, and reminded, how easy it is to screenshot and screen record things.

Hacking and lost phones are as big a concern as deliberate revenge porn so again been drummed into them that it’s not just about trusting the person you are video calling or swapping pics with - it’s about the person that finds their lost phone.