Has the pandemic made you realise you’re not a very nice person?

[LowlandsAway]

I’ve found the last two years has really driven home how little I care about things and I’m wondering if I’m just a bit broken. I am being looked at for an early menopause (late 30s) which my mum also had, but I really just can’t be arsed with the details of peoples lives anymore and am realising how much of it beforehand was social pressure to ‘do’ small talk and so on. I have so little patience for faffing/over-sensitivity/whining etc now - it feels like I’ve had empathy surgery. I’ve also noticed I don’t cry myself anymore, starting to wonder if there’s something a bit wrong. Has anyone else found their patience has run out thanks to COVID?

Gosh, the sounds like me. I can’t be bothered with other peoples dramas anymore.

I’ve also realised that I don’t need that many people in my life, initially lockdown felt the worst thing ever because I missed people, but 2 years down the line, I find myself distancing myself more and more from people who aren’t particularly nice (my family) and it feels scarily easy to do.

It doesn't mean you're an unkindly person it comes with age, our tolerance for mindless crap decreases rapidly, along with the ability to give a shit about what other people think of you.
I don't mind a little chitchat with a stranger about mundane things.
Not to be an arsehole I've had the opposite feelings about myself from the last 18 months I've seen life is truly short it changes rapidly.
I make a conscious decision to be a bit nicer and appreciate the smaller things.

I just really cannot be arsed with people, unless they are positive, productive, polite and greatful for what they have, then I really don't want to know

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LOL, indeed!

I'm also a lot more wary of who I spend my time with. DH's family? Not top of the list. I've heard all these stories before. Mate from up the street only texts when she wants something. Had another text from someone wanting a socially distance walk - she just always moans excessively about her volunteering project... I simply don't have time for this shit.

Unless you spark joy and can make it worth they effort, I'm not gonna be involved.