This is odd, right?

[Lilolily]

The other day I was in the pub with a guy I’ve been seeing for about 3 months, getting a drink before I left for home.

We were stood at the bar and it was his round, so I wasn’t paying much attention, but I heard him order our drinks and then say “and whatever she’s having” and gestured to an older woman stood next to him. I glanced over to see if I knew the person but didn’t.

I’ll be honest I thought she looked a little uncomfortable but I heard her say godfather so I assumed it was some relative/friend of his mums etc.

I went and sat down and when he finally paid and came over I asked him who he bought a drink for, and he replied “I dunno, just some woman”.

He bought a drink for a random woman at the bar who he had never spoken to in his life, for what reason? She wasn’t some young hot chick, his mums age if not older, no connection. If they had even exchanged pleasantries at the bar I would’ve got it, but no. Bizarre right?

Man does something nice, SHOCKING!!! Quick, red flag police needed here asap.

V odd! She must have been totally baffled!

Could it not just have been a nice gesture? Why has it annoyed you?

Maybe it was like one of those paying it forward things? Or just he was a few drinks in and feeling generous

You’ve been with him for 3 months can’t you ask him?
Maybe he’s just a lovely bloke who enjoys brightening people’s days?

Bit weird. But so what?

Sounds like a nice gesture a little random act of kindness. Maybe he enjoys doing nice things, not sure why you couldn't just ask him.

Asking randoms won’t give you the answer you seek. Ask Mr drinker buyer for strangers,

Does seem odd to buy a drink for some random woman he doesn't know.

Is he one these men who tried to be the big 'I am' around women, says he 'gets on better with women' and has loads of female 'friends.'

If some random man I never met before bought ME a drink at a bar, I wouldn't accept I tbh. I would find it odd, and wonder what his motives were.

PLUS, I am capable of buying my own drinks.

YANBU @Lilolily

TRIES to be the big 'I am...'

If some stranger bought me a drink in a bar I’d assume he was hitting on me.

Random acts of kindness exist! My FIL often bought lunch for the person in front of him in a queue at work. He said some people took offence to it

It’s weird.

Unless he needed to spend a bit more to meet the minimum payment to pay by card? That’s the most normal explanation I can think of.

Sounds like a nice random act of kindness - someone did this to me once in a coffee queue. I was a bit taken aback but understood the sentiment!

You'd have preferred your bloke to buy a drink for the young, hot chick while on a date with you?

He's just being nice by the sounds of it. I think it would make me smile that my bloke was being generous and to know it wasn't because he fancied someone. (I assume he doesn't because of how you've described it but he might for all I know.) She can turn it down if she doesn't want it.

I've seen men do this when i worked in a bar. It's usually when a woman is waiting withoit drawing attention to herself, and they get served before her, or they think she is going unnoticed by the bar staff.

@SallyAnn32

Random acts of kindness exist! My FIL often bought lunch for the person in front of him in a queue at work. He said some people took offence to it

My FIL often bought lunch for the person in front of him in a queue at work.

Why?

That's not a random act of kindness. A random act of kindness is paying a smallish bill (less than £10,) at the checkout for the random stranger in front of you, whose card was declined and who doesn't have any money. Regularly buying lunch for people in the queue in front of you at work is odd, and attention seeking.

@LittleRoundRobin I think he was trying to be nice and paying dividends for being a prick earlier in life