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Selfish teens?

18 replies

GoodHairDay86 · 04/01/2022 06:53

So I lost my shit at 6am with my 13 and 15 year olds who had woken me yet again. We all have covid but I'm the only 1 feeling like utter shit and there sleep routine is out of wack because of the Christmas holidays. I tried to keep them awake all day yesterday so they would get back on track with their sleep schedules and they kept nodding off being woken etc.
They have woken me every night for the past 5, not particularly loud but I've explained that in a quiet house it stands out more and im such a light sleeper. I cannot stop crying ffs I feel so ill and so angry that they keep being selfish. 5 year old woke from their noise too.

I feel so guilty getting angry as usually a calm person but I'm sick and im tired and I wont have any help today and won't get a nap and ahhhh

Should I feel so guilty shouting when they were clearly so selfish

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GoodnightGrandma · 04/01/2022 06:55

What were they doing at 6am to wake you up ?

Mybalconyiscracking · 04/01/2022 06:56

Ear plugs!
Are they gaming, turn off the Wi-Fi!

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GoodHairDay86 · 04/01/2022 07:00

Ear plugs give me anxiety as I have a fear of not hearing the fire alarm, they were in the kitchen below my room being really loud having some breakfast. I had already been woken at 2 from him on his gaming headset. I cant turn the WiFi off partner works from it during the night.

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GoodHairDay86 · 04/01/2022 07:01

I will be taking all screens when I go to bed I just want to know if IBU shouting this morning

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Sparklfairy · 04/01/2022 07:04

No you're not BU. They need to learn consideration for other people in the house especially at ridiculous early times, ESPECIALLY when you're so ill.

Dancingbea · 04/01/2022 07:04

Most WiFi systems like sky, bt have an app which allows you to disconnect certain devices from the WiFi at a certain time without turning it off for all

Potatodrivers · 04/01/2022 07:07

I had this exact same situation the other day. I found I was being woken up every night and couldn't get back to sleep. I was so sleep deprived by day 4 I was irritable and I had a rant at them as it just simply wasn't fair.

Lack of sleep is horrendous so no I don't think you were BU. Grab a nap to catch up if you can and hopefully now they realise how much its affecting your sleep they will quieten down.
Mine did. I just wish the cats would listen! Between 4-6am every morning they wake me upSad

WaterBottle123 · 04/01/2022 07:08

Why are they allowed screens at night? Take them all away, permanently

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GoodHairDay86 · 04/01/2022 07:09

Thank you for the supportive words they are helping me so much! We have talktalk ill see if ita an option that sounds so smart I hope I can figure a way

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HangersGalore · 04/01/2022 07:11

As Dancing says, google your router, find out how to identify and then isolate devices. That way you can just cut them off and not yourself.

There are straight forward instructions online on how to do it. It can be a game changer.

Even just telling them you can do this may help you.

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GoodHairDay86 · 04/01/2022 07:36

Ive had a look and I don't think I can set up turning off individual devices, ill ask my brother for some help in afew hours when I know he will be awake

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bcc89 · 04/01/2022 07:48

Change the password, only for your husband.

bcc89 · 04/01/2022 07:49

You shouldn't be "explaining", get them bloody told. You're ill and they're being selfish. Tell them you want silence in the house til 9am. They can read a book or do something quietly with headphones in. You're not being unreasonable if you're unwell.

Excitedforthefuture · 04/01/2022 07:52

Teens up at 3 gaming
And then up at 6 making breakfast

This is odd op
And disrespectful
They’re not old teens
You need to establish some boundaries

GoodnightGrandma · 04/01/2022 07:59

YANBU, time to reinforce bedtimes and house rules.

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GoodHairDay86 · 04/01/2022 08:16

Yes you're quite right, I can be abit of a pushover but this is so strange to me because they generally don't take the piss, like the other day the 13year old did all the housework I was falling behind on without being asked, the 15 year old has been entertaining the 5 year old loads to let me rest etc.

Like they are good kids thats why I think I felt guilty cos I don't usually shout and they looked so shocked but it certainly isn't the 1st time I've spoken to them about it and you are right I need to put my foot down.

So if I cant figure the router thing out I'll have to take screens each evening.

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Fairylights25 · 04/01/2022 09:52

I have teen dc and this is not on at all. Devices are charged downstairs from 9pm on a school night, 9.45pm at all other times. No one is allowed on anything before 7am.

This is the moment to put your foot down op, when you are ill and need them to be more considerate. You can ask nicely, numerous times, but sometimes there is a place for shouting (esp if you don't usually) Hope you feel better soon Flowers

AngelicInnocent · 04/01/2022 10:25

Honestly, if they are generally good kids, and from what you described they are, I would just let it go. You losing your temper and shouting at them seems to have shocked them and should make them think. Why not just ask them to look after younger sibling while you have a nap.

Obviously once back at school they can't be gaming at 2am etc but that's a different matter.

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