Just that. Am I being unreasonable?

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In fact I am only posting here because I need to vent.. there needs to be a VENT section where we can just LET STUFF OUT! I don't even really care whether I'm being unreasonable or not. Arrrghhh..

I have been out all afternoon (in fact all DAY including other obligations this morning, stuff that no other fecker ever does) and I get home to find the Christmas tree wrecked (DS age 7 (SN) does this when left to own devices) AGAIN.. this time, bottom branches of (fake) tree broken and unfixable, all the decorations thrown around and some of those broken too.. none of the lights on (NO fecker puts those on except me.. it's just a COUPLE OF SWTICHES FFS YOU BONE IDLE TWATS!).. DS on playstation seeminly blissfully unaware that he's got to leave for work in half an hour, no thought of what he's going to eat first, DH, dozing on sofa, next to under the weather DS2 (not too ill to trash the christmas though of course) seemingly unaware of fact that dinner should have been cooking due to time.

I am just pissed off. Nobody does these things but me.. ok DH cooks but is apparently incapable of watching the time.. can't OTHER PEOPLE watch to see what DS2 is doing? It must have have taken him some time to do that degree of wreckage that he's done this afternoon??! That was my DAD'S tree FFS!

I just feel shit and put upon. And just spent 2 hours at a christmas party at my dad's nursing home trying to see the christmas spirit in a situation where staff are flogging selves to death for elderly people with little concept of who they are let alone what time of year it is. Thank God my dad does not have demensia but it's his first christmas in the home. And it must be depressing for him. And I feel shit that he has to be there.

Oh fuck everything.

Ignore me. It's all just whinging shite really isn't it? I'l have got over it later.. although can't drink myself over it because have to pick DS up from work later . Unless DH offers. Unlikely seeing as I screamed at them all like a banshee when I first got in.

Humphhhh.

I won a teapot on the raffle however.

Have a cup of tea in your new pot...
actually your day put mine into perspective
hope your evening gets better

I felt like that yesterday and don;t have half of the stuff you need to deal with.

If it was the other way round - even if DS2 HAD trashed the tree when I had had my back turned - I would have said "Come on you two.. let's get the tree back to rights and the lights on before your mum gets home...". I would have!

But that's just too much to expect of a MAN isn't it..

(to the other two that is.. non SN... no good expecting DS2 to put anything "back to rights".. ha bloody ha...! )

Thanks for letting me vent.. do appreciate it.

In my view you are not being unreasonable in expecting DH to keep an eye on DS2 when you are out. Even your older DS should be capable of keeping an eye on DS2 to avoid him trashing the place.

My older DS seems capable only of keeping an eye on his playstation. And of moaning.

DD (9) had shut herself away in her room to avoid having to deal with DS2. She already does too much for him and totally deserves the treats she gets when she goes to Young Carers.

Actually they all just LOVE it when I'm out, I'm sure because it's all SO laid back with daddy because he doesn't make them DO anything.. And then Mum's key turns on the door and she starts a tirade of moaning.. nasty evil mother...

Grr.

Definitely not being unreasonable.

I expect the teapot makes up for everything though, doesn't it? Doesn't it?

Thank you. You are all helping. I have to say most days are like this; it's not unusual but actually in reality DH is quite the lazy git I am making him out to be. I am just the one who does all the running around vaguely wondering how to - and failing to - get any housework done as well.

DH NOT quite the lazy git that's supppsed to say...

Yes, the teapot is lovely. It is hand painted with cartoons and a slogan "shop til you drop" on it.. Not very ME )I don't shop til I drop) but v.nice and cheerful anyway. I will go and fill it now. Make DH and I a nice cuppa for when he gets back from taking DS1 to work, which he did to flee the mad wife I'm sure..