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To look forward to Dd going back to uni?

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ApricotArcade · 03/01/2022 14:03

I love her dearly, but she is driving me up the wall!
I'm counting off the days until she returns to uni so I can have my house back and get some peace.

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PrincessNutella · 03/01/2022 14:14

You won't be the first mother in history to think, "But how can I love you if you won't go away?!"

I8toys · 03/01/2022 14:18

Oh god no I don't want ds to go back but of course know he needs to go and am adding stuff to the Tesco delivery to stock him up again.

I'll miss him and have just got used to not worrying about him constantly when he started in September when he came home for Christmas. Now I'm fearful I'll be the same again until I get used to him being gone again. I know he's a grown adult - he was in 18 in August - but I like his company.

LucilleBluth · 03/01/2022 14:20

Just dropped DS off at the train station, hallefuckinglugah.

I love him but my god do you know he’s here.

Onthegrid · 03/01/2022 14:21

Agree +1

I had one DC home for nearly 3 weeks and whilst I like her company I can do without the mess and disturbance, especially now I work from home. The week before Christmas was a nightmare as she had no coursework to do and DH had also finished, yet I was still working.

The other DC is perfect in small doses but a nightmare to live with, they came for 6 nights which was perfect.

Myrrfect · 03/01/2022 14:24

I was going to start this thread!

I really love him but I don’t feel like I’ve had a break! Hes just constant! Constantly chatting to me, friends on FaceTime, friends in the house I have to laugh at all the right places and he’ll always want to come if I want some fresh air. He’s out a lot too so sometimes v tired so much washing and washing up (which he’ll do but not on my timescales) I’ve been nursing my mum as well over Christmas who is bed bound and omg I’m exhausted 😩 I just want him to go back to uni and be on my own and cry. He’s got some girl here right now and I’m hiding I just cannot taken anymore but I know I can’t ask him to go back as I’ll never be forgiven

gogohm · 03/01/2022 14:25

Yes, two of them here, can't wait to get an evening just the two of us and to stop having to find dressing gowns etc

Myrrfect · 03/01/2022 14:26

That was way more emotional than I meant it to be! I missed him the first year…. I think

gogohm · 03/01/2022 14:27

But we miss them when they are gone of course.

(They are both threatening to stay if everything is online, no!)

Hunderland · 03/01/2022 14:46

Ahhh mine's been lovely, we do get on much better since he started uni though! He's not back there til mid Jan so good job things are going well here

Furrydogmum · 03/01/2022 14:52

My oldest (23) and his fiancee are buying their first house - hopefully completing this week (adore them but I can't wait!) Youngest (19) decided to stay at home for uni - thinking of buying him a flat.. Unfortunately we'd still have my parents even if the kids were gone :-/ YANBU

RampantIvy · 03/01/2022 14:54

The week before Christmas was a nightmare as she had no coursework to do

What is she studying that she has no work to do over the holidays? DD is in her third year of studying biomedical sciences and has always had lods of work to do over Christmas, plus revising for exams in January.

She is currently working on an essay.

tiredofthisshit21 · 03/01/2022 14:56

Mine has just buggered off with her BF for 5 nights leaving a room like a bombsite (which I've had to tidy before the cleaner comes) and a basket full of washing!! Love having her at home but bloody hell it's much easier when she's at uni!

Firefliess · 03/01/2022 15:00

I've found the uni years holidays hard with all of ours tbh. They come home and expect everything to be the way they remember it, pick fights with younger siblings who've been growing up behind their backs, but also expect to go out and about with the freedom they had at uni, eat what they want when they want, etc. Properly grown up and coming to visit only for as long as they actually want to visit us is a lot easier!

drivinmecrazy · 03/01/2022 15:11

My DD1 went back Friday, both she and us were ready for it. She misses her independence and friends and has her job to get back for.
I'm already having palpitations about when she's home when she graduates. She's in her final year so not too far away now.
I'll have a year with both DDs at home before DD2 goes away to uni so will have a full house again.
It's amazing how we've got used to being a family of three!

JazzHandsYeah · 03/01/2022 15:12

Counting down the days (Thursday).
Love her dearly but she’s resorted to a preteen brat. Hasn’t offered to help once, hasn’t so much as made a cup of tea, let alone wash up or help with cooking. And picking fights constantly with her sister and her dad.
My god she’ll have a shock when she’s out of halls and sharing a house next year.

RedHelenB · 03/01/2022 15:26

@ApricotArcade

I love her dearly, but she is driving me up the wall! I'm counting off the days until she returns to uni so I can have my house back and get some peace.

Yabu, there won't be many times she will be back for long holidays. Just waved dd1 off and feeling a bit tearful that it will be the last long Christmas all together at home as she will be working next Christmas and could be anywhere I the country.

Lifeisbeautiful01 · 03/01/2022 15:28

I don’t want mine to leave but bloody hell it’ll be nice not to pick up after her every 5 seconds!

RampantIvy · 03/01/2022 15:31

I'll miss DD's cooking. She made Christmas dinner, and a vegan Korean feast the other day. She is an excellent cook.

doodleygirl · 03/01/2022 15:34

Hahahaha @RampantIvy, talk about a stealth post.

OP says can’t wait for kid to go back and the only thing you pick up on is having no work.

OP I certainly understand the can’t wait for them to bugger off and in a few weeks time, can’t wait to see them again! Enjoy your peace.

Pyracanth · 03/01/2022 15:37

I’m relieved to read that other Uni dc’s are behaving like mine during the holidays, it’s so hard to deal with their expectations when they’re home and it’s difficult for them to adapt back into their old life, but I’ll still be sad when my dd returns to Uni on Saturday.

awesomekilick · 03/01/2022 15:45

@PrincessNutella

You won't be the first mother in history to think, "But how can I love you if you won't go away?!"

PineappleCakes · 03/01/2022 15:56

I have 2 back from university. One who hates being back and can't wait to "go home" (to university) and the other who just reverted to childhood and loves being waited on hand & foot (no cooking for him here, because of all the cooking and cleaning he has to do whilst away :/ )

Looking forward to next week when both will/should be back at university 🍾

HazelBite · 03/01/2022 16:02

When you all moan think of me I have had DC's living with me continually, since the 1st one was born in 1981!
We currently have one son plus his wife living with us, they come and go, DH and I have never had our current home to ourselves.

bigbluebus · 03/01/2022 16:33

My DS came back home from Uni in July whilst finishing his Masters Dissertation and he's still here! He has a temporary job whilst looking for something more career orientated but by golly the mess is driving me nuts and there's no sign of him going anywhere.
He's currently in the kitchen cooking our dinner but I know that the kitchen will be an absolute bombsite when he's finished. He can't even make a cup of tea/coffee without getting water on every bit of worktop. And don't get me started on his bathroom!!
Be grateful yours are only home for a few weeks and have somewhere to go back to!

Hesma · 03/01/2022 17:31

The feeling is probably mutual 🤣. I know my parents and I felt like this when I was at Uni!

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