To hate some of DS gifts?

[Mamaofaboy]

I know.

I feel awful even typing this but DS was gifted some god awful clothes for Christmas. Mixture of shops - M&S, Next etc but really garish, character heavy items that I’d never put him in.

For some reason the gift givers in many cases haven’t included gift receipts - so can I return and switch for items I’ll actually put him in at these shops? All unworn obviously, with tags.

I know he’s just little and I shouldn’t be ungrateful but it seems so wasteful to have these clothes that just won’t be worn?

Next links individual items to people - I would take them back and see if you can exchange if not and they are not to your taste than charity...and they will get worn.
People don't always include gift receipts.

@HarlanPepper

It just sounds so spoilt and entitled. "WAAH, I don't like my presents". What are you, five?

I don’t think that’s true. Everyone has personal preferences - I wouldn’t wear something I didn’t like.

Donate them or he can just wear them, at 7 months he absolutely will not give a shiny shit what he's wearing!

He’s 7 months old, they are clothes. If they are comfy and fit him who cares about a “garish print”. Seriously get over yourself

pfb

I cant imagine having been that against any baby clothes when mine were that age. They're new and clean and from next or M&S, whats the problem?

Wow - I expected that some may think I’m being ungrateful but this escalated in true MN fashion 🙄

I’m not “a spoiled 5yr old”, “entitled” or “grabby” - quite the opposite - I’m delighted friends/family have bought presents for DS and torn as to what to do with the things I simply won’t put him in as we are fortunate enough to have lots of lovely clothes to wear. He is growing like a weed (I do feed him thanks some PP’s - and he does get dirty but I also happen to own a washing machine) and will need the next sizes up soon, so it will be great to switch them for (albeit more tasteful) bigger clothes or failing that give to charity rather than use them just to get dirty and purposefully ruin.

Perhaps I am abit precious, but as a FTM to a very longed for little boy I am enjoying every single moment from kissing his adorable little socks to colour coordinating his little hats and everything in between! Sue me!

@Mamaofaboy

Wow - I expected that some may think I’m being ungrateful but this escalated in true MN fashion 🙄

I’m not “a spoiled 5yr old”, “entitled” or “grabby” - quite the opposite - I’m delighted friends/family have bought presents for DS and torn as to what to do with the things I simply won’t put him in as we are fortunate enough to have lots of lovely clothes to wear. He is growing like a weed (I do feed him thanks some PP’s - and he does get dirty but I also happen to own a washing machine) and will need the next sizes up soon, so it will be great to switch them for (albeit more tasteful) bigger clothes or failing that give to charity rather than use them just to get dirty and purposefully ruin.

Perhaps I am abit precious, but as a FTM to a very longed for little boy I am enjoying every single moment from kissing his adorable little socks to colour coordinating his little hats and everything in between! Sue me!

Enjoy all the cuddles…but you can’t expect anything else as you’ve posted on AIBU.
Have a lovely few months with little one before he starts nursery. Wishing you all the best.

@BazWazzycantdance I haven’t personally attacked you. You disagreed specifically with one of my posts, so I’m replying to you because of that. That’s how internet forums work! If you disagree with people they also can disagree with you.

When mine were small, I absolutely hated those tops with stupid slogans on like "Mummy's Mucky Monster" or "Here comes trouble". Of course the baby didn't care, but the point is that I cared. You don't have to dress your baby in something you find awful just because someone has bought it for you. In the same way that you will receive toys you don't want in your life - thank the giver then quietly retire them.

I asked people for the receipts and as not to offend I told them I needed to change the sizes.

I don’t wish to be ungrateful but we got some awful things I just really didn’t like. Never had this with my daughter. She was always picked lovely items.

@iheartredsquirrels

pfb

Hah - if anything, with my pfb I put up with too much of the putting baby in awful outfits just to please relatives. If I had another I wouldn’t bother with any of that!

If someone gave you an hideous dress for Christmas would you keep wearing it so as not to look ungrateful?

I bet most posters on this thread wouldn’t, but they’re just itching to come on and try to shame a new mum by saying she’s ungrateful. It’s nothing more than that - policing other women.

I'd try and exchange them, saying they didn't fit or he was growing so much you wanted the next size so they would last longer etc but they didn't have that exact outfit in the size up so you got something similar. I hate upsetting people, but I also hate waste.
I would always donate too when finished. Sometimes via charity shop but more often than not I'd donate them to a local charity that helps families that use food banks etc.

Oh, CP with your update. Great minds think alike OP!

I would definitely change them! I think it's fine to be particular. One of the great pleasures of having a little baby is being able to dress them in cute outfits of your choosing, as shallow as it sounds! It doesn't last long and before you know it they choose their own outfits.

I would never let clothes go to waste but would exchange or give them away. As pp say, someone else will enjoy the clothes.

I won’t sue you. My kids were never in tv character clothes either. At 7 months he hasn’t even had time to pick a favourite character yet. There’s more to life than telly.

Donate them to a Domestic Violence Shelter

Sell it on vinted if you can’t return it. People will buy it.

He's 7 months old?
Put him in anything that isn't crusty and stained a suspicious colour!

I understand how you feel and my sense is that I would take a photo of him in them and then take them to the charity shop or see if you can get a refund. I loved dressing my little boy and had a very definite preference for styles (I too used to detest character clothing!) What I would say is that that changes when they get older and your threshold for character clothing increases as their love of them does! At 7 months, go with what you like and charity shop or return. Enjoy your baby and dressing him! x

Get over yourself. Truly one the most moaning posts I’ve read.

Have just tried to exchange some clothes at M &S which my dc received as Xmas presents as too small. Unfortunately the giver has lost the receipts and M & S say they no longer exchange or even give credit without the receipts. ( Tags are still on)
This is such a shame as they used to have a great exchange policy.

@Mrstamborineman

Get over yourself. Truly one the most moaning posts I’ve read.

Have you never received a gift you don't like then?