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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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How does it work when your kids have covid?

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PicaK · 02/01/2022 22:27

I'm reading the regs and I'm genuinely not sure.
If your young child gets covid and obviously still needs looking after and hugs etc how does that affect you in terms of isolating?
Is it still OK to go out and about to work, see people etc.
It's tricky because my ex has chosen to go see his girlfriend and her kids today who have tested positive.
He now wants to see our kids and messaged "I don't have to isolate. I don't have symptoms. So I can go about my life as normal. So I can go to work and mix with people. There is no reason why I cannot see the kids. I am not breaking any rules."
I'm still a bit angry with him about other stuff this xmas and worrying it's clouding my judgement.
Aibu to not let him see them?

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Dozer · 03/01/2022 08:03

YABU, he’s not tested positive so should see the DC.

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PicaK · 03/01/2022 08:05

I know. You're right about the risks. Its just the knowing that bothers me.
I don't know anyone who has deliberately gone to see infected people out of their own household.
All my friends whose partners/kids have it have practically split the house in two. That's my peer group - thoughtful, responsible, caring, community minded.
I hate being pushed out of that category.

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PicaK · 03/01/2022 08:07

And yet if he's carrying it (from yesterday's contact) it won't show on tests immediately will it?

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Littlecaf · 03/01/2022 08:08

He’s should not have gone to see his gfs kids if they have Covid so are self isolating.

He is now a close contact even if he doesn’t have the virus. I wouldn’t let him see DCs in this circumstance.

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PicaK · 03/01/2022 08:08

It is good to get other view points. My peer group are very cautious.

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Dozer · 03/01/2022 08:08

What ‘category’ you’re in is irrelevant, except in your own mind!

Maray1967 · 03/01/2022 14:45

When DS2 had Covid his dad and I did laterals as well and then we all went for PCR tests. Same results as lateral tests so we carried on working but mostly from home. We were both double jabbed which had clearly worked. Carried on with laterals every other day while caring for DS but we did completely isolate. Still did necessary shopping etc.

Hemingwayscatz · 03/01/2022 15:15

If he doesn’t live with his girlfriend and her children, he shouldn’t have visited them knowing they had covid and is breaking the law. I wouldn’t let him see your DC because there’s a strong possibility he will test positive over the next few days. What a fool.

Hemingwayscatz · 03/01/2022 15:17

@PicaK

And yet if he's carrying it (from yesterday's contact) it won't show on tests immediately will it?

Nope, it takes at least 5 days to show on tests. I’m vaccinated but still caught it from DD last month, I tested positive 6 days after her but was negative up till that point because I did daily LFs. DH never tested positive.

Zotter · 03/01/2022 15:26

Your children are not at risk from covid (as children have never been at risk of severe illness)

Risk of long covid, not high but definitely some risk.

77,000 children with LC, 14,000 with symptoms for a year. (ONS)

user1471447863 · 03/01/2022 15:52

@Wondergirl100
Your children are not at risk from covid (as children have never been at risk of severe illness)

What a load of shite. Tell the to the parents of the 125 children who have died of covid. Tell that to the parents of 1 in 7 kids who have long covid, some who may never lead a normal life due to it

@Zotter i'd look at 1 in 7 as a pretty high ratio (14%).

Imagine going to a theme park and them telling you that only 1 in 7 of the riders of this roller coaster get injured - would you get on?

Newyearoldyou · 03/01/2022 16:03

My dc had covid, no way we could isolate them one was too young anyway.
Didn't really hug etc but didn't treat her like a pariah

I had to go to work, I tested every day out of courtesy to my colleagues and I wore a mask again out of courtesy.

With omicron I feel its a little silly to go but...

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PicaK · 03/01/2022 16:25

I'm certainly not advocating anyone not hugging their kids.
But I'm bloody furious they broke isolation rules.

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Zotter · 03/01/2022 17:13

[quote user1471447863]@Wondergirl100
Your children are not at risk from covid (as children have never been at risk of severe illness)

What a load of shite. Tell the to the parents of the 125 children who have died of covid. Tell that to the parents of 1 in 7 kids who have long covid, some who may never lead a normal life due to it

@Zotter i'd look at 1 in 7 as a pretty high ratio (14%).

Imagine going to a theme park and them telling you that only 1 in 7 of the riders of this roller coaster get injured - would you get on?[/quote]
Don’t disagree with you. Long Covid in kids is heartbreaking. Know can be v debilitating.

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