To think this is not right for her?

[Acatinahat]

Cousin has rheumatoid arthritis and ulcerative colitis. Lost her job recently as a nanny and now wants to do supply nursery nursing where she goes in to cover staff as and when they need.
She has a BA in childhood studies and I just feel she can do better, not to mention the fact that I'm not sure they would take someone on with her medical issues and the fact she is overqualified.
I know I sound really interfering but I just want the best for her.

@Acatinahat

She has a BA in childhood studies - what exactly do you think she should be doing?

You said she wants to do this so you're right - it's none of your business.

I'm saying this as someone with a BA Childhood Studies- It's a shite degree OP and doesn't actually qualify you to do anything. There's no clear pathway at the end of it or anything.
Your friend is doing well to have a job at all and that's without her health issues so you should be proud of her.
I know when you think of a degree you think of people in high level professional jobs but honestly, in the case of some degrees, it's really not the case.

I don't think you sound supportive. You sound like my dad...nothing good enough.

I've worked for a supply agency before. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it. In fact, working as a supply is actually an essential service. I doubt they will reject her due to having extensive experience, if anything, this will probably swing in her favour. It means that she could work as a cover room leader if need be.

Besides, it really is none of your business.

has she asked for your opinion?

Maybe this work would suit her with her medical issues.

A somebody who has trained as a Nursery Nurse, I find your "she can do better" comment rather offensive. What is it about NN's that you find so demeaning?

Yes you do sound interfering!
You can have an opinion, but that counts for nothing when it’s not your life/health, to voice this to her would be a dick move!

What is it about nursery nursing you have issue with that you think this isn’t good enough and Why would you think she’s over qualified to do this job?

Gosh I hope this is a reverse

Aside from the ‘doing better’ aspect , if you have illness/ disability it can be soul destroying to feel that you can’t keep up or keep ‘failing’ to hold down a job etc.

It’s far better to be realistic and flexible and focus on what you can do and feel a sense of success and semblance of control. You should be glad that she has choices like this where she can continue to work in the industry she likes and is qualified for and is feeling strong enough to give it a go.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA over qualified? Seriously????

Your cousin has RhA and UC which can be very debilitating

Both those conditions will be exacerbated by stress. She may appreciate a flexible job with less stress that she can physically manage her days and weeks better. She sounds quite young to have Rheumatoid arthritis, it's horribly painful and when it's diagnosed younger (40s) it's usually more severe and on a faster degeneration.

It's good to be there for your cousin. Maybe you should let her talk and listen to her, rather than think you know better or different.

As a disabled working woman the occasional family members or friends that try to give me unsolicited advice on "what I should do" is immensely annoying to me, (even if they mean well). It's patronising.

She sounds very sensible.
Overqualified? No, she sounds perfectly qualified. I had a MSc in clinical psychology, but was taken on as canteen assistant in a catering company, a job I enjoyed and kept for 3 years, I’m glad my employer didn’t think I was overqualified, as I had a background in industrial catering as as well.

I’ve interviewed people who you would regard as overqualified for a role in specialist cancer nursing, because they met the minimum requirements for the job, and they sounded interesting.

I think you should do her the courtesy of knowing her own business, and her own body, best.

'She can do better?' - you realise how condescending that sounds, not only to her, but to all those in similar roles?
Let her make her own decisions.

I know lots of lovely people who do supply work in early years settings! It's a great job as you can use your qualifications flexibly without having to be stuck in a full-time permanent job (which doesn't suit everyone's needs - many for health reasons like your relative, or because they want to be flexible around family or want to travel etc).

A fair number of nursery nurses are degree qualified - it's obviously more attractive for employers and can mean a higher salary and better work.

So odd. I've got two degrees and get occasional work on quiz show pilots/run-throughs.

My job pays fractionally more than NMW.

What the hell has it got to do with you?

Butt out. It’s absolutely none of your business and you don’t know better than her.