Tips for adapting to change better please!

[Rainydays55]

I’m not a fan of change in the slightest , this is something I want to work on this year for myself. I have some changes coming up and I already feel really nervous / anxious. For those of you who adapt to change well or even enjoy it please give me some tips?!

Don’t see it as a limitation.

Ask how the changes will be implemented to ensure the least disruption to you.

Try the change programme on Headspace

I don't know whether I'm good at change. In some circumstances I can be very flexible and spontaneous, in other situations I find changing my ways, ie pushing myself to do things out of my comfort zone, very difficult indeed.
One thing I do find is that if I can push past my anxiety and take even a small step then other changes become easier and easier. So I would say that the first step is the most difficult so if I'm in a position to do that, I try and push myself.
Having said all of that I do suffer from anxiety that tends to come in waves and sometimes set backs last for months/ a year at a time, so I don't know whether this is helpful for any one else.

What worries you about the changes? How can you flip that into a positive?
Can you get any training/ support?

Everyone is different so if you don’t like change what is it about change you don’t like? How can you minimise the impact of change to you - I hope that doesn’t sound patronising it’s hard word it right, but if you can pinpoint that you might get better ideas to help

Thank you everyone! I think what makes me feel uncomfortable about change is that it feels out of my control even if it’s my choice if that makes sense - it’s out of the new routine and not knowing exactly what it will be like makes me worry and get nervous. Sounds so silly for an adult doesnt it

If it’s any consolation I feel the same about routine. After a childhood of constant changes I just feel this awful ominous feeling if routines repeat themselves too much.
I’m constantly changing furniture configuration, changing my mind, feel trapped by security.
Which means nothing ever gets finished! BUT in your case- change is just external. Remember you will always be you and remain the same. Wherever you go and whatever you do.

I mentally project myself forward and look backwards. Everything that changes becomes the norm. Remind yourself of that!
The very thing that’s changing now - so the thing you want to keep! - was probably once a change that worried you. And look at you now - wanting to keep it!

Think through what are the negative things that might happen and how you would deal with them. Think about how likely these things are to happen. Also think about the exciting things that could happen.

An example: New job - I might not be able to park. I could park at X and walk. My new colleagues might laugh at me. Chance of this happening: low. I might make new friends. Chance: medium.

Thank you so much, these are lovely responses, the big change I have coming up actually is a job but how nervous it’s making me feel has made me realise that this year I want to work on myself on dealing with change better overall

You’re approaching change with caution, which is better than changing for the sake of it that people like me do.
So you feeling nervous is just you being sensible. Change is always scary, but a bit like those weird people that like sky diving etc… it’s not that they’re not scared, they just enjoy the adrenalin rush. You don’t, so that means if you are choosing a new job there’s a really good reason why you are making that choice. Go back to the time you made that choice. There was a reason. That reason still counts.