Just one piece of advice. There’s already talk of “fighting” on this thread. Of course parents wish the best for their children and that is absolutely right. However some parents get really whipped and riled up by others into “fight mode” and start their relationship with the school / LA on an unhappy footing straight away because they have decided they are going to fight them rather than trust them.
These sentences stuck out to me:
“Everything feels like a bit of a battle and your child’s education is in the hands of people who don't know them”
“I'm just feeling stressed about her leaving early years, 7 months will go so fast, its going to be a lot of change.”
I don’t know you or your child, but my advice would be to check really thoroughly with yourself exactly WHY you feel your daughter needs support before you begin your fight.
I have seen and been involved in many many ‘battles’ over provision.
Sometimes they are truly necessary and the child’s provision in school was inadequate and causing them to suffer. So, I absolutely do applaud parents who fight for their children in these circumstances. They often occur higher up the school - but they can and do arise in the Early Years too.
But also, I have seen relationships sour between parents schools and LAs because of a fight based on what is really a foundation of parental stress and anxiety. In other words a parent wants the reassurance of the designated contact person and 1:1 to calm their own stress and worries about how their child will cope / is coping in school. They want to be sure that their child is understood and that there is a parental stand in/surrogate for them while their child is in school.
Which is all very understandable, but sometimes (in fact quite often) the child is actually educationally and socially managing just fine without a 1:1 - often a bit of extra support here and there is all that is needed, and therefore all that can be justified and agreed to by the school / LA. But the frantic parent who is worried about their child starts pursuing a 1:1 even though it is not necessary, (often backed up and egged on by an army of online parents) because:
- they are stressed and anxious
- they feel that this is an expression of love for their child and that anything less than maximum support would be letting them down
- they need an outlet for anger and grief.
The parent needs emotional support, but this is often not identified.
It can become quite toxic and unhappy for everyone, relationships can break down and unless there is a solid educational reason for the support it will not get anywhere.
I don’t know you or your child, so I don’t know how relevant this is for you, but I hope it’s helpful for you or others to think about.