It’s a WhatsApp one

[scorpiogirly]

I have a long running saga on relationship board which I won’t get into here. Just looking for insight into this issue.

Ex and I split on Monday. He blocked me on WhatsApp and removed me as a friend on FB although didn’t block me there.

I am not spending time looking… but I notice when I use WhatsApp to message a friend. Every day since, he has unblocked me for hours at a time.

Anyone had this? What on earth is he hoping to achieve? I should mention I haven’t messaged since the split on Monday, nor do I intent do.

@scorpiogirly

I thought about blocking, I don’t want him to even have the satisfaction of knowing I went onto his conversation in order to do so.

I think this needs reframing in your head slightly. Blocking him and deleting the conversation will mean he cannot get in your head anymore. You won't see him on your phone. He can't pop up and message. It's best for you, mental health wise, to block him.

Whether he thinks that means you care / are bothered etc is of absolutely no consequence to you. You worrying about the fact he would think xyz if you blocked him is the exact reason you should do so - because you're allocating him more headspace than required.

Block, delete and move on.

@Beachtrip sorry you went through that, sounds horrendous. I went through a terrible break up with a narc in 2012. He still contacts me even now. I ignore it, but he will have a conversation with himself.

I probably won’t get an apology, even if I do it will mean nothing I guess.

@PurpleCarpets I think I am meant to be blocked, he blocked me when he got angry at the time of the split. I’ve remained unblocked now for the longest time, so maybe he won’t bother blocking again.

I have already deleted his number. The next step is deleting his conversation and then setting my WhatsApp to contacts only.

@scorpiogirly

Should have said, I don’t have last seen online active.

Even if you don't have "last seen" switched on, it still shows when you're "online" and active. He may be checking to see if you're online.

Oh gosh yes, delete the thread. Then you can't see if he's blocking/unblocking and most importantly you can't contact him.

Delete the thread, all call history, any texts, other messaging platforms. Delete his number out of your phone.
Delete the contact card in your phone book is a huge step. But you still have his number, delete it. Then you are free.