Been engaged a year now and my mum brought up the conversation of did we have any plans for the wedding. I said it won't be a big wedding, just a registry office. I only have my parents and 1. Sibling to invite so for me to have a big wedding is impossible and I'd find it embarrassing to feel like I have no one to invite. Her response was that we should just elope to save her the 'hassle' of having to come.
It hurt to hear that as I thought we had a closer relationship than that and to know that the only people I have in the world to come to a small ceremony aren't interested. I spoke to my partner later on about what my mum had said and he basically said he wasn't looking forward to it and that I should just make the plans and tell him when to turn up.
I was so excited when he asked me to marry him. I dreamed about how my mum would come to wedding fairs with me like she did for my sister. Before my sister got married we went to lots of wedding fairs, we went dress shopping, helped her pick flowers and got excited for her. We planned a hen night and made the experience special and my mum enjoyed it. My mum has basically said to me she's not interested and to save her the hassle. I've never been married before
I'm in my 30s. My partner has shown no interest in even discussing his thoughts about what he would like. We've been together 10 years. We have a home, a family but his attitude is tell me when and il turn up.
I'm trying not to let it upset me, but looking at my ring reminds me that no one cares enough to spend a few hours at my wedding and my fiance is just turning up. I feel guilty for being upset.