Aibu and should let it go or still pester?

[Jasmino1o]

One of my pet hates of my husband is that every single time he cuts fruit or veg, he leaves the knife in the perfect overhanging position for our daughter to reach. It seems so petty but it’s the fact that, not only does he not just throws the knife in the sink after cutting something, that he leaves it so it is within perfect reach of our daughter who is 3. I have asked, and asked, and asked him not to do this, ever since our daughter was at an age where she could stand up. We had those coloured knives when she was little and I always worried she would reach for them, we have the standard coloured knives now, and although I doubt she would reach for them, I still pester him not to leave them overhanging the worktop but he doesn’t get it after (literally) a thousand times! Do I just leave him be or do I carry on pestering?
His mum did literally everything for him growing up so he never had to clean a dish or keep his clothes after him, or pick any kind of rubbish off the floor or literally ANYTHING that involved a chore (!!) so it has been so tough bringing up a child with him. He is getting better since I am not only a mum but also a part-time Law student, as well as a part-time night care assistant, but mostly do full-time hours, so it annoys me to the core when I have to pick up after him, or make sure there is nothing dangerous lying about with a curious young child who is fiercely independent and if she wanted to cut something she would sure as hell go for the knife!!

Sorry for the rambling on, I am just so wound up. Maybe over nothing to some perspectives 🤷‍♀️

He is being stupid about this. And dangerous.

I would be giving him some demonstrations: with your Dd well out of the way knock the knife on to the floor near his foot. Point out where her face would be if that happened. Show him some googled images of ‘cooking accidents with knives’ etc.

I would be going up the wall at him, not ‘pestering’.

Demanding common sense safety standards and care for your child is not ‘pestering’.

Take the easy way out and train her not to touch knives, whether they're on the table top or anywhere else, in the same way you teach her not to touch the gas taps on the cooker, or naked flames.

This is not pestering. It's about being an adult in charge of a small child that could seriously hurt themselves if the knife fell on her or she held it.

He is just being lazy and depending on you to keep her safe. Would he let her cross the road herself???

@StrifeOfBath it just came to me after you saying about demonstrating a knife falling over, it happened to me once! He was in the lounge with her, I knocked a knife over and luckily the handle end and not the sharp end of the knife hit me in the toe, I yelled, it really hurt! He came in and actually laughed about it! But that incident bruised my nail bed and took weeks for the bruise to go! I just don’t get why after soooo many times of me saying this he still doesn’t get it, although he says he does but he still leaves knives overhanging the worktop. It hurts my brain so much! 2 knives tonight had the handle just perfectly overhanging the worktop. Why, oh why??

@Dillydollydingdong I have and I trust that she’s clever enough not to touch, but I worry that if she had something she really wanted to cut then she would definitely go for it. Again I trust she’s competent enough, but I’m the sort of person that is all about minimising the risks!

Firstly, stop blaming his Mother. He's learnt to navigate every other part of life as an adult, safely, or is he getting warnings in work? He either doesn't think that it's important enough to care about, or he's keeping you on your toes. How is he at supervising her on roads etc?

I would keep the knives locked away and refuse to let him use sharp knives. This is lazy beyond belief! I bet he doesn't leave money lying around for the child to lift

Maybe you should pretend to stab him (out of sight of DD) everything he does it? I’m only half joking!!

This isn’t pestering, it’s him being hideously lazy and a slack parent - if there was a H&S rule that was essential for his job would he have issues remembering? Why don’t your thoughts and your daughters safety get the same level of his attention?

I would keep the knives locked away and refuse to let him use sharp knives. This is lazy beyond belief! I bet he doesn't leave money lying around for the child to lift

This seems like your only answer.

I don’t think I could live with someone like this though.

Don't tell him, each time ask him to explain the danger to his daughter of pulling the knife down. Make him actively consider and articulate the danger himself out loud.

I’d hide all the sodding knives if he can’t be careful with them! This would shit me no end!

Bloody hell, I wouldn’t be “pestering”, I’d be going mental.

Lose your shit!! Ffs i think ive got out of bed on the wrong side. Cant believe so many threads like this. Unless your husband has additional needs thst affect his ability to risk assess. Very soon your dc will have friends over. Some craic when its another child getting hurt. He is a lazy fucker who thinks you are his servant, clearing up after him. Did you not know this before you started living with him, having children. How does he manage in work??

Train the 3 year old how to use a knife properly. Tell the adult to take responsibility for his actions. I'm sure he knows the consequence s.