... to think that threesomes are really difficult (friendship group)

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It's just so much more difficult to

• find times that suits everyone
• activities/places that suit everyone
• making an effort to be inclusive

It's a relatively new situation for me, as two separate friends from different "places" in my life have a lot in common over the past few years.

1:1 is easier, being in a group is easier!

Depends on your attitude to friendships.

More the merrier here!

A WhatsApp group for the three of you will solve those problems!

I distinctly remember three being difficult as a teen. For different reasons but tricky all the same.

Three is always awkward. My key group is five, wider ten, we do things in twos, threes whoever is free. Someone is always left out in a threesome of the two do it.

All of your 3 points you made are easier to work with as a group of 3 than a group of 4 or more

I like being in a three. Not so much pressure to keep up your end of the conversation, a range of different views, but not as overwhelming/noisy as a bigger group. During my life I have very often found myself in a close friendship group of three. I have also sometimes wondered if it is because I'm part of a sibling group of three, so used to the dynamic. I also have three DC because I like it!

I definitely don't think 3 is a magic number.

I am in a 3 and it hasn't been plain sailing. Especially if two fall out and end up venting to the person who hasn't.

I also have 3dc and find that a nightmare as well as one always tends to be left out. They rarely all want to do the same thing.

I have some great friends, but my challenge is that I've very different constraints with respect to work and family, so am not always available. Having said that, I never feel "left out", by I sometimes think my friends go out of their way too much to try accommodate me?

It's a bit like the Guardian piece a while back. Most people are interested in a threesome, but the reality is different ... speaking from experience :)

www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/feb/11/threesomes-men-women-sex-psychology#:~:text=threesome%20that%20night.-,A%20threesome%20is%20the%20most%20common%20sexual%20fantasy%20among%20Americans,Tell%20Me%20What%20You%20Want.

I/we really struggled in a group of 3. It just didn’t work.

We were young at the time 17 when we all met. But someone always felt left out.

By the time we got to 22 we went on a big girls holiday to the states and it was a nightmare! By the last day we all had a lot to drink and the other two had a big fight. They never made up. I tried to stay friends with both but it was just so awkward. I’ve remained friends/best friends with one of them.

The other has now moved on is married and seems very happy ( I miss her dearly though)