Soooo a bit long winded so I'll try to just include the vital stuff.
So my mum is a total conspiracy theorist, anti-vaxxer, "trump will save us all", big pharam, COVID is "hidding/distracting from something bigger" the lot. Its happened gradually over the last 7 years but COVID has magnified it massively and is also been the tipping points for several big arguments with her (not just me but my sisters and her too). She and my Dad haven't had the best luck in life. she tends to be quite bitter about this and at my rational moments I can see how she has got to this point however its getting too much. It started with the vaccination stuff (even though we are all vaccinate), she didn't want us to vaccinate our children and as much as we tried to politely but firmly tell her we disagree and would be vaccinating them but she hounded us with videos and articles trying to convince us otherwise. This constant "convincing" would also include things like foods to eat, politics, cancer treatments don't work and are another big pharma situation etc etc any time we stood our group and asked her to leave it/ stop she would go off the deep end and start saying about how we don't allow her an opinion between the three of us she was having screaming aggressive rows with us a couple of times per week...then covid hit.
She wouldn't wear a mask, was convinced it wasn't real, now believes it's just a cold and is being used by big pharam and banks as a global reset. She isn't jabbed and takes any given opportunity to complain about it. Unfortunately Feb last year we lost DH grandad to covid and within days (before we'd even had his funeral) she was on the phone back talking to me about how its all a con. This was my tipping point, after asking her to change the subject several times I told her it was disgustingly insensitive to be saying all this when we had just lost someone so close to which she told me I was disgusting for weaponising the death to attack her. I cut her off at this point. Called my dad and told him to come round whenever but she wasn't welcome. In the couple of months she and I didn't talk he didn't but was totally understanding as to why I had banned her from coming here and kept in touch through messages etc.
Her and my sisters had a few more arguments that followed similar patterns and in the end my dad finally got involved. He'd said several times to us individually that he agreed she should talk to someone but when we all came together to voice this he did a 180...suddenly he didn't think it would help and convinced us all to give her a last chance. We did, she behaved for a while but you can see its killing her not to let it all out. She's so bitter and negative about EVERYTHING!
Anyway she's starting down the same path and I'm wondering how much more I can take...am I giving up on my mum too easily? Would others put up with this? I don't know if I can ever get passed her behaviour after DH's grandad died ( shoukd I expect to be able to?) and my DH certainly can't. He is civil with her now but it's never quite been the same and he's known her for 16 years ( they previously had a great relationship, as did I with her)
If you got this far, thanks. It was nice to air it all if nothing else!