Not a hugger

[SarahJessicaParker1]

I only like hugging my dcs and dh. Also my mum when she was alive.

Dbro loves hugging and would hug pretty much anyone. I hate it and feel like a rabbit I a trap if someone hugs me. Weirdly, kissing hello, I'm fine with as no strong embrace.

It's taken me years to admit this out loud BTW as I know I sound like a cold fish. I don't have any trauma around hugging and as I say I'd kiss anyone (reasonably clean) hello, happily

YABU: hugging is great
YANBU: I don't like it either

I don't like it either, especially men and this is including members of my wider family. I don't want my boobs squished up against anyone thank you neither do I want their groin an inch from mine.

I used to hate hugging when I was younger. We didn't do it in my family. (We did kiss goodnight / goodbye). That changed at university. Now I love hugs, and the hardest part of Covid (or one of them!) has been been hugging people.

Ofc I still hug my DC, but not my colleague who's feeling sad, a school mum friend etc. My hairdresser hugged me at Christmas & I felt so emotional! (Btw, I'm in Ireland and certainly where I am, and especially at work, social distancing is very much observed).

However, YANBU at all not to like hugs. Totally personal preference. My DBro hates hugs. My eldest DC really isn't a hugger either, at the moment. We'd a funny moment last summer when I collected her at the train station after she'd been away for a fortnight. I leant across to hug her, she moved back instinctively & I fell sideways towards the passenger door! She was very apologetic but her instinct was just to move away from the embrace!

has been not* hugging people.

Me too. I find it awkward, never sure whether to hug or not! Covid was a godsend in that respect … everyone knew exactly where they were

My family don't hug. I only hug my dc's.

I don't do hugs either! Well except for my kids. Its your choice, those who matter will respect you.

I am not a hugger. I don’t like dancing. I am in a minority among the people I know. They think I am some kind of freak for not loving a hug and not liking dancing just because it is something they love. I compete (very successfully too!) in a solitary endurance sport. I love it. I point out to them that I love hugging and dancing the same way they would love being freezing cold, exhausted and completely bewildered at 4am in a competition. And they can kind of see that. Just because some people love something, doesn’t mean everyone has to love it.

YANBU I fucking hate it.

After I had DD who is now 12, I frequently felt 'touched out' at the end of the day.

Obviously time with DH was OK but hugs each time I see someone or 'as standard' nope nope and nope.

DD is a hugger and of course I'll give her them, but after the 8th time in an hour which she can get like sometimes I can be a bit 'No, that's enough.'

I'm not a hugger. It's one of the only positives to come out of covid that we no longer have to do this!

I don't like hugging or dancing either. I am a tactile person, I kiss (romantic kisses and peck on the cheek to friends/famiky kisses) and I like touching arms, patting shoulders, holding hands, etc I just hate hugging and the only people I'm comfortable hugging are DH and the DC. Most people quickly realise it when I don't hug back, I go stiff and its like hugging a stick. As for the dancing, I can have a good time without dancing and I don't mind everyone else going off for a dance, I'm happy to stay at the table and enjoy the music without flailing around the place.

I absolutely detest it, it's uncomfortable and cringy!

I hate kissing and am only open to hugs from people I know well and if they warn me. I get annoyed if DH hugs me while I'm doing a job, even. I do have ASD so this may enhance my dislike. Fortunately COVID stopped a lot of the face kissing and I hope it stays that way.

I dislike it. Kids, pets and my mum, female friends maybe that’s it. Nan when she was alive. Not even my DH really. I will tolerate the latter but it’s too overbearing

@BobbinThreadbare123

I hate kissing and am only open to hugs from people I know well and if they warn me. I get annoyed if DH hugs me while I'm doing a job, even. I do have ASD so this may enhance my dislike. Fortunately COVID stopped a lot of the face kissing and I hope it stays that way.

Omg I’m exactly the same. Always coming up and interrupting me F OFF

I'm a hugger not a kisser but you are not unreasonable to have your own personal boundaries.

I'm not a hugger either. I feel incredibly awkward when someone comes to me arms outstretched and I'm stood there like a tin soldier.
I'm gonna be honest, I'm not even a fan of hugging my DC. I'll do a hug goodnight and if they're sad or hurt, but not so much as a general touchy feely hug for no reason. It's just not me.
YANBU at all

I feel incredibly awkward when someone comes to me arms outstretched and I'm stood there like a tin soldier.

This line made me laugh 😂

I'd be that outstretched arms person!

Neither yabu or yanbu- it’s up to you. I like it but only with people (friends) who like it too and want to hug properly. I hate a limp hug.

I'm not a hugger either, only like to hug children I'm related to. My best friend is very much a hugger and always laughs at me because she knows I'm pulling faces and waiting for it to be over 😂

I don't want to hug or kiss anyone who isn't my DH or my kids. I even only shake hands if I have to.
The best thing about being pregnant during social distancing was that no one could touch my stomach.
I don't really think it's unusual to not want people outside of your immediate circle touching you.

I hate it, unless it’s a lover or close family member.
The best thing about the pandemic for me has been the cessation of ott hugging and kissing of even the most casual acquaintances.

I hate it too, but could tolerate my late DH. Weirdly though I have a new boyfriend and can't get enough of his cuddles, maybe it's going 3 years without being touched, or the affection? But I still dislike anyone else touching me.

It's more of a new modern thing to me, hugging your friends when you say hello and goodbye - we didn't do it when I was at school (1970s) so I now feel a little awkward at times that we are doing it now. I liked Covid restrictions for that really as we all stopped doing it. God, that makes me sound a right misery, but I'm not really!

I’m not a hugger or a kisser - I never have been. I remember once when I was in my 20s, my boyfriends (at the time) mother went to hug me and I naturally took a step back, she thought I was pretty rude. I felt bad about it for ages.

I hug and kiss my children and that’s it. I don’t want anyone else hugging or kissing me thank you.

YANBU!