Walking the dog

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DD14 is expected to walk the dog on her own at her Dad's house every time she is there. She is there 4 days a month. The last time she stayed she was only there for 24 hours and was asked to walk the dog twice.

I never get involved with what happens at her Dad's but the last time she was walking their dog she FaceTimed me, it was so foggy she could barely see the field in front of her and she was a bit worried about a man that was also in the field (on his own, no dog).

I have said to her why does she not say that she is not comfortable walking the dog and she said she'd get made to walk it anyway.

Would it be unreasonable of me to speak to her dad and ask that someone at least go with her to walk the dog, or should I just keep my nose out? I don't really agree with her being made to take the dog on long walks when she is there as she is there so little, but it's not my place to comment on that really!

Does she actually want to go to her Dad's? Is the problem that her needs and wants are generally disregarded when she's there, or is it just the specific issue of walking the dog?

validusernames what about the rest of my post?

Can you role play conversation with her dad aimed at solving the problem with her?

You say you've always spoken for her.

Now you teach her to speak for herself.

You play her dad, she plays herself, or better still if she can manage it she plays her dad, you play her part (not every autistic teen will be able to do the role swapping but its very useful if she can) then swap.

Role play suggesting solutions and solving the problem by explaining that she feels unsafe first, then move on to suggestions for solving the problem.

If her step brother is 16 he is one of many possible solutions, but the first and best would be that her dad walks with her so that they get time together as well as the dog getting walked.

Well a Rottweiler is quite a deterrent to wrong un’s but I still don’t see why she should have to do it

You are involved and she is your child, you are entitled to discuss her welfare with her father. X

She's old enough to walk a dog alone, and EOW contact doesn't mean she should be treated like a guest the whole time. Normal family life means you pitch in with chores like walking the dog and loading the dishwasher. It sounds a bit like you are coddling her tbh.