I have a friend who I have known over a decade. We used to be very close and lived in the same city, now we have both moved about an hours drive away, but have kept in touch, met up for coffee, lunch, had trips away over the last five years.
She's always been a terrible communicator, which I've never held against her but I'm starting to find her extremely irritating. For the past year or so her texts have consisted of ... "hi icelolly how are things with you" type message .... I'll reply with an update and ask one or two questions in return.... radio silence. I will see my message has been read, that she's online. Nothing.
A few weeks later, she'll message again (totally ignoring my questions and prev messages) with another breezy "hi how are you, what have you been upto?" Again I will reply usually the same day as to me it feels rude to ignore a question. I will yet again ask a question, nothing too intrusive. Yet again she won't reply to me. I don't want to seem like I'm harrassing by asking further questions or sending more messages so again the exchange is abandoned until she decides when to pick it up again. This has repeated itself about ten times now.
It just feels pointless as there's no actual conversation and it's starting to feel like it's always me sharing and her just asking questions but not telling me anything about her life. However it is very difficult for me to just ignore a question and she always ends her message with a question.
Is it time to just abandon this so called friendship as I'm really not getting anything out of it but we do have good memories.