Should I pay or not ??

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OH has a big birthday coming up, Iv booked us to go away for this but I was thinking to do a meal and ask a few of his friends

So if I do this and invite them, does that mean I should pay or ???

Defo over thinking this but don't wana be left with a bill I can't afford haha an don't wana sound cheeky with everyone paying for themselves

As long as you make it clear to them at point of booking ifs fine for everyone to pay for themselves

Agree with @Sirzy that as long it is made clear when the invitation is given that those attending will have to pay for their own meal then I don’t see it as an issue!

I was invited to a 50th meal and it was made clear I had to pay, absolutely fine. Just be clear at the outset. Most people don’t expect the host to pay for it, infact we all chipped in extra to pay for the birthday girl

Absolutely they pay

Just make it clear on the invitation. Personally I’d prefer it as I could order what I wanted without feeling guilty that I’d be sticking the host with a cheeky bill

Agree with others that as long as it is clear, however if I was invited out for a birthday meal i would expect to pay unless it was with my family as we all tend to pick up the bill on our own birthdays. Don't overthink it and have q lovely time.

They should pay. I’d give a general idea od the cost (i.e. £30 for 3 courses)

We are going to X for Us birthday. If you would like to join us you would be very welcome, here is a link to their menu and price list.

Something that makes it clear you are all paying for yourselves

Instead of sounding like an invitation, do a suggestion and ask if people are interested. I still remember my bil asking us to my lovely sister’s 40th. This involved trains, hotel etc. He said restaurant was all sorted. We assumed this was paying for the meal. It literally meant being booked. It caused a bit of slight embarrassment from my mum and other sis who wacc so Bt working.
Sorry, that was a bit rambley
So, just be clear.

Wasn’t working. Fat hungover fingers.