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Second hand clothes

266 replies

parentpanic · 31/12/2021 18:17

Do you buy second hand clothes for your children and AIBU to ask why and how you feel about it?

OP posts:
Getyourjinglebellsinarow · 31/12/2021 22:17

Either eBay or sales. My 7mo baby is in 18-24 month clothes. It's a bloody waste of money. I resell everything that he'd usually worn a couple of times.

RobertaFirmino · 31/12/2021 22:32

wearing something a stranger has worn for god knows how long gives me the heebie jeebies

The majority of clothes in charity shops (for adults, anyway) have been donated because they weren't being worn. I work in one and the women's clothes we are given are either pristine, often with tags or only fit for the rag bag. There's no middle ground.

Vinted is a bit different - I feel like I'm sifting through pages and pages of bobbly, creased shite to find the decent stuff.

WalkingOnSonshine · 31/12/2021 22:43

@RobertaFirmino you can filter on condition for new with/without tags. I typically keep it on that for general browsing, or very good if I’m looking for something specifically.

Disneyblueeyes · 31/12/2021 22:47

@coochyboochy

Second hand shoes? 🤢🤮🤮🤢
Yes. I can't imagine my 2 year old being fussed. After all, she happily eats things off the floor and spends 90% of the time with her finger up her nose.
liveforsummer · 31/12/2021 22:51

I can't get on with Vinted at all, never bought a thing off It yet. I use eBay a lot even for brand new things from eBay shops. Got a 250 joules tween coat last week for £100 still with tags and a Zara puffer also with tags for half its retail price . Yard boots for dd that had never been worn and actually still had the box but tags were removed for £7 with an rrp of £38. Tbf I wouldn't have cared if they had been worn for stomping around in stables but they were pristine

batmanladybird · 31/12/2021 22:51

Yes absolutely
Buy new shoes swimsuits and pants but otherwise mostlynsecond hand off eBay

Buytoomuchonebay · 31/12/2021 22:52

I had second hand stuff growing up with was social death at school
I got pregnant young and couldn't afford all new stuff so everything got passed on
Its now trendy to buy second hand and I only know of two families that buy all new stuff
Everyone else I know love a bargain and we are always comparing our bargains
I could afford new now but I don't see the point-i let someone else pay full whack-ill buy it afterwards

00100001 · 31/12/2021 22:54

Yes.
Cheaper.

00100001 · 31/12/2021 22:55

Except for undies, socks, bras and shoes.

Gregsprinkles · 31/12/2021 22:56

Yes, lots. What do you mean 'how do I feel about it'?

liveforsummer · 31/12/2021 22:57

@Buytoomuchonebay same - all the frugal things my parents did like second hand clothes,
baking own bread, knitting own clothes was positively sneered upon when I was in primary school, yet is all now so cool and hip (with a few not caught up yet). It's ironic

pradavilla · 31/12/2021 22:58

I mostly buy new but I do like getting some designer or decent high street stuff second hand to get it cheaper. Sometimes though the stuff hasn't been great so that does put me off. Folk aren't so truthful!

I've got a lot of hand me downs from my nieces though which then get handed down again to my youngest. Some of the stuff ends up in the bin when we r finished with it but most of it is still decent enough to pass on or sell/donate to charity.

Aria999 · 31/12/2021 23:00

I also went through a phase of doing knee patches but DS destroys them faster than I can sew, so there is a growing' weds mending' pile in the cupboard.

Buytoomuchonebay · 31/12/2021 23:00

[quote liveforsummer]@Buytoomuchonebay same - all the frugal things my parents did like second hand clothes,
baking own bread, knitting own clothes was positively sneered upon when I was in primary school, yet is all now so cool and hip (with a few not caught up yet). It's ironic [/quote]
It’s weird
I was an outcast at school for having a weird veggie dad (who cared about the planet)
Ditto my second hand clothes
We grew our own veg
We walked everywhere
We didn’t go posh holidays abroad
I was bullied as saving money meant my parents bought their own house

Now it’s cool and anyone who doesn’t is the odd one!

C152 · 31/12/2021 23:01

Overseas, yes, as the quality is absolutely amazing and the prices are really cheap. In the UK, no, as the clothes seem rather well loved - and not so cheap - in the charity shops near me.

delilahbucket · 31/12/2021 23:04

I did for the first 8 years of his life, all on eBay. Mostly down to cost. It then became so expensive for sellers that it wasn't the bargain it used to be. When he was a baby I got bin liners of clothes for next to nothing, and mostly hardly worn.
I buy a lot of secondhand for myself for environmental reasons. Only new underwear, socks, shoes and swimwear though due to hygiene.

massiveblob · 31/12/2021 23:46

Yes plus tons of hand me downs.

suzyscat · 01/01/2022 02:32

Yes, for environmental reasons mainly but also financial. I also buy the majority of my own clothes second hand too.

Newmum738 · 01/01/2022 02:34

Yes, environmental reasons. Feel good about it. Love a good deal! Preloved is the best.

marplemead · 01/01/2022 02:53

Yes, I buy almost everything 2nd hand for DS and DD, mostly through Vinted. It's cheaper and better for the environment. I do buy shoes and most toys new. When DD was a baby, I bought everything new, and will reuse most with DS, but wish I'd bought second hand. I sell on some stuff, but most goes to friends/family or charity shops. I also buy a lot second hand myself, and really hate to think back to all the money I wasted buying new in the past.

OwMyToe · 01/01/2022 02:54

If they're in good shape, why not? I wear second-hand, myself, if I find items I like at a good price. Sometimes I've found quality pieces that would otherwise have been out of my budget. Examine them for holes, stains, and other signs of wear, but if they look reasonably "new", it's a wise way to save money.

ShottaSheriff · 01/01/2022 03:02

I am very happy to receive second hand clothes from friends and family for my children. I also pass clothes on to friends as they are outgrown, or give them to charity. I love seeing my favourite things worn again. I occasionally buy items from our local children’s charity shop. I’ve never really got on with buying or selling online though. Often things seem overpriced (e.g could have been bought new in the sale for a similar price) or things take a while to sell snd there are lots of time-wasters!

Similarly, most of my maternity and nursing wardrobe was second hand. Didn’t seem worth buying everything new. I’ve since sold a few pieces for an absolute steal for the person that bought them.

I do get a bit annoyed when I get passed on a load of knackered old clothes though - then have to get rid of them myself. I only pass on excellent/good condition items to friends and charity shops then everything else goes in the charity clothes bins.

Catflapkitkat · 01/01/2022 04:46

Mainly, eBay. Not so much as I live abroad. But did have a couple of friends who passed outgrown clothes to me. I now do it for people here - that is about barely worn clothes not going to waste.

Buying from eBay, it was mainly financial. Also, I could get better quality clothing - when I bought bundle of clothes.

TwoAndCooPlease · 01/01/2022 05:29

@MollysDolly

I buy loads second hand. Because I absolutely love a bargain.

It honestly brings me so much happiness, DM will say "oh that's a lovely dress DD's wearing today" and I'm; "Guess what!!!?? £2!!!!! eBay!!!!!!!!!!" like the Cheshire Cat.

I also then sell on everything once DC have outgrown it, often for more than I bought it for, because I take good pictures and press everything carefully. I genuinely think that all 3DC have cost me nothing to clothe, as anything new or specific like uniform will have been covered by small profits made from selling all their old stuff.

I've just got the £6k TV unit I wanted, from eBay, two years old, for £800. My dining room suite, is about £7k, and I got it for £250 because the chair pads were ripped and the seller had taken awful pictures. It's now all newly upholstered to match the new dining room curtains, which cost me £360. The Andrew Martin fabric I bought again, off eBay, the whole roll for £20.

Friends are always commenting that they don't know where all my money comes from. Our house looks lovely, with high quality items. I spend a fraction of what they do, buying their stuff all new from Next etc.

Cots, bookcases, changers, wardrobes, all solid wood, all from East Coast matching in French grey, make DTwins nursery look fantastic. I paid £80 for one set, £120 for the other, £45 for the bookcase, and had them all sanded and resprayed, for £250. To buy it all new, would have been £3850. I'll sell it all for at least what I paid for it when they outgrow.

Cars, holidays, buying a new home, we spend a lot on. But this is facilitated by the fact that 95% of things I buy are secondhand. DH has large salary, and had never lived like this until he met me. He can not believe how much we save and the misconception he had that secondhand must mean shabby or worn. He loves a bargain too now.

Love this. I'm very impressed reading this and picturing a beautiful home that you're so proud of
coochyboochy · 01/01/2022 09:01

I do just find second hand shoes beyond the pale. You can't wash out the traces from the previous wearer- they always carry the sweat et. It's just grim. Yes toddlers get dirty but I presume you still bath them to remove the dirt, we don't just leave kids dirty. I don't know why you would subject a child to that,