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AIBU?

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4 replies

Kooksadooks · 31/12/2021 12:35

Hello… I have been a mumsnet member for nearly six years and had many name changes. Anywho…
I have been with DP for seven years. It has been up and down. Neither of us is perfect but from my side I cannot deal with his snappy mood and the way he speaks to me (raised voices, shouting) when he feels frustrated by something. He is not always like this. He can be the opposite but I find myself feeling on edge and being hyper vigilant over everything to avoid frustrating him in any way.
I don’t understand because he is also this way towards his mum and sisters (but never his dad) and whilst they have acknowledged it is not ok, they have never addressed it with him, he tells me that as he was growing up that’s how his dad was and that’s how older men are and it’s just part of life and I should suck it up.
AIBU to think it is important to bring your kids up and teach them to speak to each other respectfully? In my opinion this is important but I am being made to feel that I am just being over dramatic 🙄 just wondering your thoughts AIBU? AIBOD (over dramatic) x

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TinselTottyTart · 01/01/2022 08:17

No one deserves to be shouted out and if it is only women who get this response he is a shit. Find someone nicer to share your life with.

phishy · 01/01/2022 08:54

YANBU, he only respects men and your kids will learn the same.

Tell him you’ll start speaking to him the same way he speaks to you unless he stops right now.

CriminalOrator · 01/01/2022 08:58

He can be the opposite but I find myself feeling on edge and being hyper vigilant over everything to avoid frustrating him in any way.

He’s trained you to ‘behave’.

He only does this to women. He sees women as lesser/subservient to men. Not only that, he admits it and has told you to suck it up.

Do you have kids? Do you have a daughter?

You know what we’re all going to say, don’t you?

Holly60 · 01/01/2022 09:41

Do you have a daughter? If so, ask him if he will enjoy hearing some stranger talking /shouting at her in the same way, when she finds a long term partner. He is teaching her what kind of man to choose.

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