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Please help.... ds sniffing deodorant aresol

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Notagoodtime · 31/12/2021 10:00

Ds is 14 years old. He has been up and down a lot lately. Not wanting to talk but try and keep a careful eye on him. I know he smokes and vapes and he knows how disappointed I am. Now I’ve discovered that he has been inhaling deodorant. I’m beside myself with worry. Wtf do I do? I’ve been trying to talk to him but he is telling me to f**k of and tells me it’s my fault as I’m too controlling on what he can do.

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Royalbloo · 31/12/2021 10:09

I would show him news stories of people who have died doing this - it's incredibly dangerous.

Royalbloo · 31/12/2021 10:09

what is it he wants to do and feels you won't let him?

ThirdElephant · 31/12/2021 10:11

Bin his aerosols and buy him stick deodorant and aftershave instead.

Treats the symptoms rather than the cause, but it's a start.

GroggyLegs · 31/12/2021 10:12

Is it just you OP? Is there anyone else who has influence - dad, uncle, sport coach?

Beetrootisred · 31/12/2021 10:19

Contact the charity Re-Solv, they focus on solvent abuse. Their telephone number is 01785 810762 or they have a live chat on their website www.re-solv.org/

You should also contact your sons school. They should have someone checking messages. They will be able to sign post you to help and offer support.

Original poster
Notagoodtime · 31/12/2021 10:19

I guess I’m more protective than some. I want to know where he is, take his phone at night etc. We have talked of the dangers..... he says he is aware. I’m sick with worry that he could have already damaged his body. All are aerosols removed. Should I be seeking professional advice? Anyone else had this problem. He has a dad but they are not great at communicating together. He had always talked more to me.

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Iputthetrampintrampoline · 31/12/2021 10:22

OP Please google FRANK ...it has a section about aerosols on there site, If you go to all drugs on main page it is listed under A. These people give straight up honest information no holds barred, they are really helpful. Please do. x

Mypathtriedtokillme · 31/12/2021 10:26

Huffing (glue), Chroming (aerosols) Or Nangs (those little nitrous oxide canister things) are just so bad for brains (the analogy here is OZ is it’s chemicals melt your brain like plastic held to a flame)

Stick deodorant for everyone and cream or oil for shaving.
Local youth drug programmes can help point you in the right direction for ideas as well.

Goldenhedgehogs · 31/12/2021 10:34

I am 47 but when I was your sons age I did this, it gives a very short high with little negative come down. Me and a lot of friends did this until a boy lower down the school died of it. It really feels harmless fun so I can understand why your son is not listening. It is dangerous as there is no warning and you can’t tell who is at risk. one moment you are happily sniffing it and then I think the aerosol sort of means you can’t breath and you die in moments.
The good news is that it isn’t really addictive, and there tends to be a hierarchy so although I did aerosol I would never do glue which is a bit like coke users saying they would never do heroin. Glue is much more addictive so if you can try and have calm conversation and find out what he is using, talk to him about risks but don’t despair for most people it is just a phase and they naturally stop. Another good thing is because buying aerosol is legal her will not have had to be associating with gangs so less chance of the whole drug running to earn drugs going on or risk of criminal record.

Beetrootisred · 31/12/2021 11:10

Please do seek professional advice. Solvent misuse can cause death, blindness or eye damage; damage to kidneys, liver, heart and the nervous system and impairment of your judgement which puts you at risk. The trouble is this can occur at anytime - on your first sniff or after months.

It is not addictive but the more a person does it the higher the tolerance they develop so they need more to get the same high.

Aerosols can be picked up anywhere and are cheap. While you can remove them from the home you can't stop him getting them off a mate or buying them in a shop.

At this age your coming down hard on him and putting restictions in place will just cause resentment on his part. It could push him further down the path.

The Re-solve charity mentioned above and Frank, which Iputthetrampintrampoline mentioned, can offer good advice. Please do notify the school as there are most likely others doing the same.

MWNA · 31/12/2021 16:30

@ThirdElephant

Bin his aerosols and buy him stick deodorant and aftershave instead.

Treats the symptoms rather than the cause, but it's a start.

Yeah. That'll really help.
PinkSyCo · 31/12/2021 17:09

How does he afford to smoke? Stop giving him money and take his phone off him every time he swears at you too!

Frazzledfiona · 31/12/2021 18:46

A boy I went to high school with died from doing this

TippingPoint65218 · 31/12/2021 18:53

Hi - contact your son's school. They will be able to do a referral to an appropriate agency (depends where in the country you are). I work in a pastoral role in a high school - referrals for solvent abuse get picked up as priority by the agency in our authority due to the associated risks. You are able to self refer as well if you wanted to miss out the school x

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